MissBonnie(dom female){oz}
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3 years ago •
Aug 3, 2021
3 years ago •
Aug 3, 2021
there is no right or wrong, only wrong for you and yours!
You state your not a anal virgin so what appeals to you?
I'm also going to ask does she have experience?
You cant just get a strap on and go for it! There is a lot of things she will need to know (Shes welcome to reach out to me if she needs too) Has she even used hand held? so she knows your body? (every body can be slightly different in reaction, form and response) safety? after care, best lubes etc?
Keep in mind if buying, just like stomach and eyes with food, your "dream" might not match your "reality" Men have a tenancy to purchase with a biggest is besterest mentality! (Damn that lizard brain and go faster gene) In this case bigger isn't often best. Smaller is always better to begin, you can always add but not take away! Most set ups will allow for different sizes and often you can buy sets for better value. If you stick to good brands they will clean well (yes shit happens) , last longer and be health(ier) to use (some ingredients are bad to use internally but <no pun intended> they still sell them)
Shop together..what does she like the look off? that you think you can handle? She also needs to feel good wearing it or other wise she merely a prop on your fantasy!
This is journey for the both of you, its not just about you...So what appeals to her?
there are many kinds of harness from full bike like shorts, panty like to leather strapping, made form all kinds of materials. some with built in dildos others you add via many methods from O rings to twists and vac locks. You can even use rope and scarfs as a harness if your just trying out this idea and don't want the initial cost of an expensive set up (some of mine have been in excess of 300 AU) again if you want help there I can point in a direction.
Keep in mind, if she is new to this, some women cant stand the idea of pegging or try and realize it leaves them feeling nothing physically (unless they are using a feeldoe esq toy) or nothing mentally, some require BOTH aspects. Additionally ..hmmm no nice way to put this..the size of woman can leave some harness leaving bruises, scrapes and tender spots all of which don't often add to "fun" factor or make it harder to find well fitting set ups.
So what I'm trying to say is this like answering how long is piece of string? It has to be as long as you need it to be.
Without those questions answered, anything we might reply is useless.
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