Age does not equal maturity

Age does not equal maturity

Little Vixie​(sub female){Mgh30} • Sep 10, 2021

Story time:
I got a message today from a gentleman that was very back and forth confusing. He stated that i seemed liked I had a good head on my shoulders and "a good set of boobs", but also commenting that I was too far from him and "so young" that online wasn't a good way to go.
This was his first message to me.

I checked out his bio and saw that he was 50 years older than me and that has never been attractive to me (to each their own) so I told him that the compliment was nice, but it was like having my grandparents hit on me and it made me very uncomfortable. While stating that just because I was 20 doesn't mean much since I was prior service which I felt like matured me.

His response boggled me. To keep it simple he basically told me that he never hit on me and it was cocky of me to think so but young kids tend to think that everyone wants him.

Does anyone recieve messages like this and am I the asshole for saying that i was uncomfortable by his age? I keep replaying the situation, but knowing me I'll keep trying to dig a hole. Please help

Lovingly Strict​(switch female) • Sep 10, 2021

Hun you've done nothing wrong. Just because someone is older doesn't mean they are more mature. Some people never grow up, remember that.

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Sep 10, 2021

I get the reverse and get 20 somethings hitting on me (but most older Dommes do due to our lack of numbers) it makes me uncomfortable too (I have children that age) I just tend to politely decline, no reason you can do the same and move on.

As Miss Strict said ...you've done nothing wrong.

You have the right to ask for what you want , right down to the age group that rocks your world

Thotsferatu​(switch female) • Sep 10, 2021

Yeah, if homeboy is 50+ and still doing the “I wasn’t hitting on you!” backpedal when they get rejected, that’s a huge red flag. Aside from, you know, commenting on someone’s boobs straight out of the gate.

They probably lie in wait looking for younger people who may not realize how immature they still are. Bleh. 🤢

Taramafor​(sub male) • Sep 10, 2021

I can say the same for "normal". Which in all honesty I view as part of the problem.

Know what the normal person does? They make so many mistakes and LET them happen.

Fuck that. I know, mean and intend what I do and I get loved for it even if I'm misunderstood at first. Why the fuck would I want to be normal when I get results with doing more then a normal person?

Give me any normal person that claims normal is a good thing. I'll get them to want to be auctistic. I won't do it by telling them. I'll do it by asking. It's amusing. When people have more open minds at least.

And closed minds? Well, that's just "normal" isn't it? I'd laugh if it wasn't so pathetic.

Same goes for age. Do I sound like an immature 5 year old? Maybe. But there's only so much hypocrisy I can take until I put my foot down. And you'd say the same, I'm sure. Personally I can control situaitons regardless of my emotinal state. And that's more then can be said for a normal person or an older person.

What I have to wonder though is how age affects that. It's biological. Our body/brain chemicals change all the time based on everything we think, say and do. And the older you get the more it starts to slow down. So I think we have to factor that in. I think when people are younger they're more "head in the clouds" and going with "feelings" instead of logic. But when you get older you realise how important it is to be logical. And actually start to relax more because even if you was always "scattered" (hyper. etc) the body forces you to slow down. Which gets your brain to slow down a bit. To think things through more clearly.

I'm not waiting for people to turn old and grey though. So I challenge people and ask questions. Otherwise you're going to be suffering until you're old. Sod that.

And wow. Over 50 and focused on boobs. The one good thing I can point out is that at least you got a libedo at that age. Hey man, I want to focus on the silver lining here. Weird message, creepy stuff. But imagine still going at that age. Caught my dad watching porn too and he's older.

... Grown ups huh? Bad as kids. This is amusing. It's like I'M the dad and my dad is the kid. XD

TranquilStorm • Sep 10, 2021

I find the deflection (Boobs? C'mon i love biology! Also learning the local cities for scrabble!) of apparent interest more eyebrow-raising than said interest. Like Thotsferatu said, owe up and not go on the offensive when interest is not reciprocated.

*edited an unneccessary commentary out. Heat of the moment yo ~

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female){LJ} • Sep 10, 2021

You didn’t do anything wrong. With people like that though, it’s best to just block and move on .

Taramafor​(sub male) • Sep 10, 2021

If you want to show how fragile and delicate you are, sure.

Personally I just let it go over my shoudlers and don't hold a grudge. I also caution you about making blank carpet statements as if it's your choice and not theirs.

I do realise it's a simple mistake. I also point out the danger of such mistakes and how it can push people over breaking point. How would you want to be treated?

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female){LJ} • Sep 10, 2021

“ If you want to show how fragile and delicate you are, sure.

Personally I just let it go over my shoudlers and don't hold a grudge. I also caution you about making blank carpet statements as if it's your choice and not theirs.

I do realise it's a simple mistake. I also point out the danger of such mistakes and how it can push people over breaking point. How would you want to be treated?”

If you’ve disrespected me enough to sexually objectify me and then insult me when called out, your opinion of me means nothing. Some people are simply not worth my time. I know who I am and I don’t need validation from an online jerk. 🤷‍♀️

Also if someone blocks me that I’ve only shared a couple messages with, I don’t care. 😆 See reasoning above.

Taramafor​(sub male) • Sep 10, 2021

False. For a start, you clearly care enough to complain about it. It "bothers" you. You also said the words you did. Not me. Don't know if you was refering to someone else. Either way I did not say those words. You did.


Hahahahahahhahaah! BWAHAHAHHAHAHA! No, really. I've heard this line before. I then ask people who they are.

Who are you then? Tell me. In your own words. We'd all like to think so wouldn't we? the turth is you're ignonrant when you flee that easily. You don't even know what affected you or why when you flee. You don't ask. You don't try to find out why you was affected. You just judge.

Hypcorites are liars and liars are cowards.

For someone that claims not to care, you sure complain a lot. You clearly seem bothered. Do you even know what actually not caring is like? You don't even say it then. You don't even "feel". So when people make that claim I take it as an insult whe I know what apathy is like.

Why is it people claim they don't care yet do nothing but complain? You lie to yourself. You're bothered by the situation and you can't handle it. That's what I think. Say what you really mean.