What sets you free?

What sets you free?

Gomezadams​(masochist male) • Oct 27, 2021

We all have something that sets our spirits free within this lifestyle. Something that takes all the stress away, something that brings you an inner peace. I have found 3 things that make me feel like this, extreme or long term bondage, dehumanization, or pain that brings joy to the woman causing it. What brings you bliss?

Miki​(masochist female) • Oct 27, 2021

Well, that's a first for me .. a masochist male in here..

I'm sure they're around here somewhere but you're ther first one i ran across on "the boards".

Well I'd say switch the pronouns and that roughly (no pun) sums up what I get out of it, although for me, I do not consider myself "in the lifesatyle" as they call it. Being a twisted kink doesn't define me, jjst one aspect.. one example of what i do for "recreation".

The rest might seem a bit mundane to a lot of spicy people, but I like them (non sexual entertainment) and that's enough for me.

Gomezadams​(masochist male) • Oct 27, 2021

Yes, I am the rare male masochist...for about 40 years now. I agree with you Miki, it doesn't define me either. I like how you expressed it as non sexual recreation. Most people don't understand that.

Cressida Clytie​(masochist female){Taken} • Oct 28, 2021

I also have 3, a lot more actually but I'll just focus on below:

Mental Bondage brings me closer to my authentic self. I'm not saying that my real life is not authentic, but learning and practicing the LS means learning about myself as well. Giving me freedom on what I choose to be and what I can explore.

I'm not a fan of casual play, I am even selective on those who I message privately but having someone take their time to know me is a way of emotional release for me.

Lastly, when I'm in my "erotic space" when I'm giving my submission, experiencing masochism whether it's physical or mental, and when I'm receiving Sadistic Domination. It's hard to explain and even describe the bliss but it makes me very vulnerable, emotional, and grounded.

Steellover​(sub male) • Oct 28, 2021

Within the kink/lifestyle, it is the deep knowledge that my goddess is happy, and that I have satisfied her. And being in that subspace, that feeling of being absolutely liquid in her presence. But that is a rare thing, and mostly the thing that sets me free is being out in nature, being outside. Whether a hike to a beautiful but remote location or a really great bike ride on a winding trail, just the feeling of speed and power as I ride through it.

Re: What sets you free?

Bunnie • Oct 28, 2021

The three things I’m sharing each take me to very different places…

First: Positions.
Positions take me to a place where I feel something deep inside settle into a knowing of who I am and where I belong.

Second: Semenawa (Rope Torture)
Most of my journey within the BDSM community has been in rope. However, not too long ago my Rigger introduced me to a new concept… a style of rope called Semenawa. It’s not necessarily about pain like the word “torture” may suggest. It’s more-so about suffering and endurance for a purpose and is as much a mental state as a physical one. Being put into predicament bondage just makes me melt into a big pile of goo. Finally my mind stops and I can just focus on feeling, breathing, and existing.

Third:
Pain. Physically, it feels like a recalibration.
Emotionally, it is through creative torture that I feel really, truly connected to someone (obviously only if they connect the same way). I love stepping into that realm of true rawness together… no masks, no pretences, no stigmas, no shame, no guilt… pure “ourselves-ness.” There is a truth in pain that doesn’t seem to exist anywhere else. It’s like standing in a round room with all the lights on. As much as I hate hurting, I love that truth. I find a bliss there… something deep inside finds a satisfaction in those places.

BeneathHerNow​(sub male) • Oct 28, 2021

I love how many people say Bondage sets me free. The juxtaposition of the two is art.
I am still relatively new to all this still but bondage has always been central to me. Long before I understood what kink was.
I have done some type of bondage, including self bondage for as long as I remember. Its how I knew I leaned towards the kinky side of things.
Restraint / bondage are at the top of my list.

MrVesper​(dom male){Not Lookin} • Oct 29, 2021

1. Watching/feeling someone slip into sub space under my guidance. This can be through bondage, discipline, torture, pleasure, whatever pushes the down button in their elevator.

2. Being present when they slip back out of sub-space so I may capture them again. That slow rise like an air bubble rising from the depths. Love that. Being able to gently(or harshly depending on the sub) capture that bubble and control it.

3. rinse and repeat.

A Cloud​(sub female){Owned} • Oct 29, 2021

Newfound awareness and wisdom.

Connections that harness the beautiful balance of similarity and difference and grow to be much, much more - almost self-perpetuating.

Stripping away the things that weigh me down.