Non-sexual online relationships?

House Talion​(dom male) • Sep 1, 2021

Seeing nudes and video can only go so far to the point that one would be better off owning porn. I've only had findom and training relations online LDR.

Fyglia Wicked​(dom female) • Sep 2, 2021

Do yourself a huge favor and do research on BDSM sites like this are more cliffsnotes than anything.
You will have to sort out the kinktards from someone worth your time
Anyone can do kink not everyone can can be in a D/s M/s dynamic..
Do not feel obligated to anyone who with a title.

KissKali​(sub female) • Sep 3, 2021

There is no such thing as a 'relationship' between two people who have never met in real life.

Online exchanges can best be called 'penpals'.

salutexlovely​(sub female){{Owned}} • Nov 3, 2021

Speaking only from my experience , it makes me sad when I hear other sub's have to wade through the "Instance Dom's" . HIW does that even qualify ??? Non commuted interactions , yea OK, but personally I don't want games I want real connection.
Recently I made some big changes in my life completely unrelated to the lifestyle and the support my online Daddy has given to me over the last year is just incredible. He is a great example of how much more there can be to a online relationship that feels complete .
Sexual pictures and play online can be daunting and sometimes... Ya just don't want that ya know? It takes a lot of communication and a lot of trust . I found myself saying " well... EFF it , let's see how it goes" and it still hasn't stopped surprising me how honest I can be . Building trust takes time.

All that is to say I empathize with you about meaningful connections online and in a sexual or non sexual way . I'm always happy to talk , and so is Daddy!

LongerJohnny​(dom male){B&C} • Nov 5, 2021

I kinda don't get the point of non-sexual online relationships, especially LTRs, unless they are poly dynamics which include local, sexual interaction.

If you are going to meet in person, or already do periodically, then I can understand the arguments in favor. But if not then it poses the issue of never being physically sexually fulfilled unless you consider the previously mentioned poly dynamic.

I have enjoyed online D/s, DDLG, and vanilla relationships, all of which included sexual components. But the ones that did not left everyone feeling unfulfilled.

There are always RC toys, mutual masturbation, various cam fun, etc. And if you do not need physical, sexual fulfillment then there are a lot of things about online relationships that can be extremely satisfying.

So it's between the persons involved, and greatly depends on what they want and/or can live without.

off topic, my appologies

uglyoldmanc • Jan 28, 2022

[quote="SageFlame"]
I'm not allowed to message you, unfortunately, thus have to resort to hijacking a thread. shame, but such is liff

I thought you night lke to know, having scanned through various threads on this foruma in the last couple of days, I have finally joined the cage because of your answer.
Whilst I may not have been involved in the "lifestyle" for very long I have been fortunate to have had many playmates who have enjoyed things that in hindsight were definitely sub to my Dom, but I have rarely encountered anyone who so perfectly mirrors my thoughts on a subject.

Noire{Owned (NH)} • Jan 28, 2022

First.. I just want to say (hopefully this is appropriate.) that I’m super proud of you. As a new person to this lifestyle. It can be intimidating to post an open blog or forum for advice. Using your peers and the community around you is the easiest way to gain knowledge from those who have a more seasoned experience within this lifestyle.

( I myself am still considered a fledgling in the community. But I’ve sure as hell have learned a ton!)

My advice to you is be clear with what you will and will not tolerate. If it’s easier to do that somewhere on your profile, go for it. Type up a little synopsis of what you don’t want someone to send you.

Or if the situation is basically during the DM’ing stage . I typically tell all of my lovely submissive friends to let the people know within a few messages. That you are someone who takes their time to develop a connection with another. That they have to treat you with care. Anything rushed or asked too soon will turn you off.

(This is the nice way of saying “Don’t ask me for shit I’m uncomfortable with or you will be blocked.”) 😂

Usually a dominant who is interested in building a solid foundation. Will take their time studying you, learning you and going with your flow. A nurturing dominant will take the time that is necessary to win over your mind and emotions. Sexual gratification is usually the last step in any serious dynamic.

I say all of that to basically tell you. That setting the tone in the beginning of being vetted by a dominant. Let’s the dominant know what your boundaries are.

I wish you luck in your budding submissive journey!