2 months ago • Sep 26, 2022
tallslenderguy(other male) • Sep 26, 2022
>>> Personally, I am of a belief that written responses are useless because they don't properly convey the subtle nuances of tone that we would use when speaking aloud to understand one another. <<<
My joke is there are 40 ways to say "Dude" Angry dude, happy dude, sad dude, etc... However in text, it's just 4 damn letters with NO sense of the nuances and inflections of tone. My rule is I will NOT have a serious conversation with my friends or lovers via text.
my thoughts went this direction too. Though i am a lover of the written word, so would stop shy of "useless."
While the oft (mis)cited Mehrabian research from 1967 that "93% of communication is non-verbal" has been subsequently debated in edu circles, it remains true that a great deal of communication, what ever the percentage, is tonal and visual. That is missing from the written word. Skilled writers use thousands of words to try and inject tone, while modern tech brings us short texts and emojis (thank goodness for clarifying lol and emojis). i despise texting for anything more than simple stuff like: "can you pick up large cucumbers on your way home?"
i think internet communication does a great job of identifying the gracious and mature vs and their counterparts. Then there's the times those opposites encounter each other. No one wants to look bad or be misrepresented, but i think part of the internet solution is to be willing to fold even when it feels like loss and humiliation. Funny, subs seem no better at doing this than Dom's, despite assertions about loving degradation. (that was tongue in cheek lol, )