A hypothetical question

A hypothetical question

Bunnie • Sep 5, 2018

So you’ve gotten to know each other and established your roles, and everything is swimming along nicely. The rules, routines and protocols are established....
My question is... is it possible to fall into complacency once the “honeymoon period” wears off? Or worse... boredom? Have you ever experienced this?
Can it be prevented? If so, how?
I’m curious because as much as I love it and thrive from having it, I know for myself that at times routine can become mundane and boring.
Submissives... do you keep in mind that you’re doing it as service to help with that?
Dominants... do you experience the same things too? And do you have things that help you overcome that?

Phanes​(dom male) • Sep 5, 2018

Just as with any relationship, many times they can come to be too routine even though both parties are fully devoted and committed to each other. I, Myself constantly read up on various BDSM sites and chat with fellow kinksters to find new ways to keep the relationship fresh. Perhaps taking turns coming up with a BDSM theme of the day/night; roleplay. Perhaps looking into areas you thought of as interesting, but need to do a bit of reading up on it before you both feel safe to proceed in exploring it. Don't think of the relationship as the responsibility of one or the other to keep it fresh and exciting; takes two.

priestess​(masochist female) • Sep 6, 2018

I'm four years into my relationship, and no boredom has ever troubled us. It's case by case, of course, but for us, nothing ever gets old. I let my Dom run everything, and he's never grown sick of me, even when I was thin and a year over UK legal at the start, and fat and 21 now. I know I'll never tire of him. Of course it's case by case, but if you meet the right person it might never get old for life.