Where do you find them?

Where do you find them?

MandatorySub • Mar 24, 2023

I am still navigating the site but it seems like a lot of Doms and subs on Cage are not actively in a physical in-person dynamic, never have been, or can't because they are in a vanilla relationship irl.

My Question:

Have you ever been in an in-person dynamic with someone? Not a hookup but 5-6 months long at least.

If so, where did you meet them? Did you also have a relationship?

This question is only for people who have actually accomplished and this in real life.

I am really curious about how common and realistic it is. It seems so easy to attain online - but the real world is a different beast.

SirPoison • Mar 24, 2023

Met her on line. Have owned her 5 plus years. Yes in person now

Steellover​(sub male) • Mar 24, 2023

First one was someone who I met on a (mostly)-defunct other fetish site. More recently she was a pro domme who advertized on a site for "Professionals." I actually had more feelings for the first one, and now looking back wish it could have worked. The dynamic was close but not quite right. I was with the pro domme for about six months, but in the end it wasn't fulfilling anymore when it became strictly about the money without any kind of intimacy beyond "Pay me for the session, now go out and spend all the rest of your money on me and go buy me stuff."

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Mar 24, 2023

26 years in person.

MandatorySub • Mar 24, 2023

Wow, congrats! How did you meet?

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Mar 24, 2023

I met my former Dom on a vanilla dating site. We are together for 2 years.

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Mar 24, 2023

We met through friends and got together knowing of each other's kinks and fetishes.

Richlydefined​(sub female){Gardener} • Mar 24, 2023

Had one once in real life. We started as vanilla bf/gf and discovered the life together. Lasted two years.

alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } • Mar 25, 2023

Met my Wolf here actually ( meaning the cage). Started out being friends getting to know each other outside of kink.

Bought house together and moved into together (2018). And have been together ever since

Surprisemre​(dom male){Looking} • Mar 25, 2023

I met my Sub online. We started in a BDSM relationship only, but it blossomed into more and she is now my partner as well as a Sub. We've been together over 2 years now.