Aphrodite46 wrote:
Recently I disobeyed my Master. I asked twice if I could have more than one owner. He feels as if I need punishment and is asking that all Master's message and tell me what you think my punishment should be.....
Why? Why would you need punished for having a desire to change your dynamic or asking a question, or questions. Being frank any dom wanting to dish out punishment to a sub wanting, needing to ask questions or wanting, needing to change their dynamic either hasn't got a clue how this 'lifestyle' really works and thinks this is what its about (its not) or they are an abuser, fantasist who have no grasp what consent is about. Strong language but everyone has the right to question anything in their dynamic relationship and not just sometimes but all the time, and that is something to be encouraged not supressed by threats of punishment. You consent to every aspect of what you do, and agree that they can do, and YOU can pull the plug and say no any time, and walk away.
I do not believe you need punished for what you have done, you need to be able to discuss all of this and if this so called dom and you can't agree to changes either to address why you would like another to own you (not unheard of in the lifestyle) or to create a framework to allow that then I would suggest ending the dynamic. Consent goes both ways if he does not want a poly arrangement thats fine and ok, as is you wanting or needing one, but this needs discussed and worked on, not you being stopped from doing that. End of the day if you and the dom can't agree, work this out then its probably better to disolve it.
The one thing you do not need though is to be punished.