Blackmailed when compromised...

Steellover, I am really sorry that this happened to you, it stinks and it’s hella unfair. And frankly, it shows what a shit business person that particular ProDomme is. There are decent folks that are into the pro side of the Lifestyle, both giving and receiving. I would think that they’d learn in a reasonable amount of time that squeezing a good customer too hard is not going to be a long term beneficial proposition.

Fyglia, obviously as a Dominant female you’ve likely had no scarcity of attention. A male sub turning to pay for play because they haven’t been met the Dominant they click with yet doesn’t make them a faux. Or fuck, there are people that turn to pro’s specifically to avoid being taken advantage of by some rando bitch who is money-grubbing off of a person who just wants to make a connection with someone who will love them the way they would like to be loved. Presumably many believe that a pro will be just that, professional.

I hope that you are able to find the connection you seek, Steellover, but just as we tell the subbie who unfortunately finds themselves having been taken advantage of someone who has claimed to be Dominant but really are just a player, I kinda think the same is true in this situation. If pay for play is an acceptable option for you, don’t assume that all pro’s would do you as dirty as that one did. There are people it works just fine for. Just like prostitution in general. Just because it’s egregious to some doesn’t mean it's an inherently evil practice. It can be a legitimate and reasonable (or dare I say, even empowering?) way to make a good living and it can also provide a safer sexual outlet for those without other option to meet their needs.

*caveat because I can feel the angst and pitchforks welling already… Pay for Play/ FinDom-me isn’t supported here at the Cage, so it is not appropriate to solicit either direction on this platform. Elsewhere tho, isn’t it contextual with not yucking another’s yum?

Much luck, OP. Good on you for being brave enough to share.
~ Henna

I haven't posted in a couple weeks; I've been on vacation and taking a break from just about everything, except family issues, and have thought a little about it.

I'm done pretending as well. At this point I've given up any semblance of pay to play and I'm looking for a mutual fullfilling and meaningful relationship- the real thing. Whether that's a "kinky" one or a vanilla one doesn't matter to me anymore; at this point I am not even picky about that. I'm just looking for someone to spend time with, share intimate moments with, and eventually share my life with.