Miki(masochist female)
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7 months ago •
May 6, 2024
7 months ago •
May 6, 2024
all I can add to this, @Jwsdcailf is that having read your profile, especially you writing you're "new to this" (bdsm) --- the chat rooms or even the discussion boards (unless you have a question or some other learning-curve material)--- are not the ideal place to start.
While none are stopping or should be stopping you from popping in the chat room or posting on these boards, it'll never work showing up immediately looking for someone to start something with and taking it as a personal insult if someone isn't interested.
You did post "seeking new connections" on that seeking feature-- best bet is to deploy a ton of patience. Truth be told, statistically (and realisticlally) it's a lot harder for sub males-- or any males for that matter to "find a match".
There simply are too few in the same boat and those are more often than not "already taken".
And without having read your misadventure in the chat room (I have never entered that department-- Totally not my thing) ...and having read your initial post, I do want to add that sometimes "rude" is subjective. Some people are more rigorously honest and straightforward in their reactions than others.
Take a number of my posts over the years I have been in here for example: Some might take me as rude or at least too brusque, but in reality I'm just a dyed-in-the-wool, bona fide smart ass by nature and often "shoot from the hip" as the saying goes, but although I am only human and can yield to less admirable facets of my personalty, (be rude) overall I never set out to hurt anyone's feelings.
A good example of how I roll would be, IRL of course, (the only "meets" I deal with) If I'm with someone who has bad breath, I will just squeeze my nose and walk away, even though I am aware of a kinder, gentler approach --- Offer "Dog breath" a mint or better still refer said individual to the nearest dentist (preferably mine as he tends to be inadvertantly annoying) and sending someone who would subject him to a noxious cloud of Hell Hole breath would be a form of "justice".
(To clarify, the prick knows I can't hear him but I can see he's jawing away at me behind his mask as he comes at me with the freakin' drill, vise grips or chisel.)
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Alas, I digress:
So, moving forward, can adjust your "seeking" post to add some of what you're looking for above and beyond "new contacts" or leave it as is and in both cases patiently wait to see if someone responds in like manner.
Sorry, probably not a hell of a lot of help but I wanted to chime in with the above.
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