Proof?!

I'mME • Jul 13, 2024

What I am reading here?

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chxrrybxrry​(sub female) • Jul 24, 2024

This is my first time in a forum, and this discussion caught my attention.

When I initially joined this site a few days ago, I certainly had a few doms come out of the woodwork and immediately attempt to assert some sort of dominance over me, as if I did have to "prove" my submissiveness to them. This is utterly ridiculous, and I've simply ignored those who've acted this way.

The thing is, as a dominant, you are not entitled to my submission, nor am I obligated to give you my submission, especially if we don't know each other. I also believe that goes the other way, where submissives aren't entitled to someone's dominance, nor are they obligated to give it. I believe that the two most important things within a D/s dynamic and BDSM is respect and consent.

Wholeheartedly, if someone cannot respect another person and listen to when they consent (and especially when they don't consent!), I don't think BDSM or a D/s dynamic is for them.

The people that I actively speak to on here are people who are willing to get to know me first as a person, and second as a submissive.

Lance1969​(dom male)​{Master} • Jul 24, 2024

I would like to consider myself a gentleman master/dom, and in no way would I ever request any photo In this social media world, it is just too crazy.

PrincessLemon​(sub female)​{Owned } • Jul 24, 2024

Haha yes a whole different topic! Although I am an exhibitionist. So the nudes thing really doesn’t bother me.

Although if a Dom asks for my nudes without prior conversation it is either a block or they would have to pay to see this pretty face/body :p

Re: Proof?!

CruelPuppetMaster​(dom male) • Jul 26, 2024

And appropriate...

Those people have already proven they don't know anything about D/s. True submission, not just casual play, must be earned because it requires respect, and respect cannot be given: it must be earned. Obeying the orders of a random stranger on the Internet is a submissive act and might be done just for the fun of it, but being HIS submissive is a very different thing.

An exhibitionist (or an Only Fans girl, lol) might be happy to send pictures at the drop of a hat. So, as you said, what does that prove? you could try this, though: Next time Captain Wannbe challenges you to prove you are submissive, tell him you'll need to get your Master's permission first.
8^)

CPM

unclesam • Jul 29, 2024

I find there are many who claim to be this or that online when in fact they are not. I would suggest you simply discard anyone who asks you "to prove you're a sub" as simply separating the wheat from the chaff. We the wheat will become obvious as you continue and the chaff...well it will just be chaff to be discarded. All the best to you in your pursuit.

SirDomCE​(dom male) • Jul 29, 2024

Thread should be entertaining indeed, yes. Looking forward to reading the responses.

Softnote​(masochist female) • Dec 1, 2024

Proof : " prove yourself " A clown photo ? Sent They asked for it with their ignorance ego boost . Nothing really to prove submission is earned, not given it other way around but two way street. The only proof they are the clown they are only looking for is to get a thrill theater ticket with a free show seeing how someone can jump, don't play the fool with a fool drop the fool finds better. Only Proof they should respect your boundaries and value you they wanna be part of your life they should be happy to even be part of it. True words go by effect and blue prints not sweet words. They must be willing to Master themself in respect to make room for another growth is only way. A D can not demand a person to bark orders over the internet just a dog playing douche tricks.

Nothing against anyone about 50 shades just saying before but some ways you need put safety with your heart. Safe Sane and have Consent a submission has mind should speak up and have feelings.
About ciro 2009 Many subs would get messages by some so called D you should read 50 shades of grey to be a true sub. Thing is, the book is about the author. It's based on their life and they went through many ups and downs but they should have made the movies made all at the same time told to people based on the author. Because the first and second one were really respectful, the last one was 50 shades free when we became more grown and understood the second one at the end was somewhat. Knowing one can just shut you off saying you have to say one person can do it alone why in the first movie they walked away. People have feelings and have a mind when respect is broken they are going to walk away. I did really read the book but saw a glimpse of it but when it first came out people thought this would save their marriage. The book was banned from many places and domestic abuse should come with a warning label. I got into the lifestyle of 1999/2000's old school. We did think of sex games of abuse was more then that but don't think it was anyways fault it' how it was viewed and showed wrong got people over addicted to 50 shades . But you have to be beyond a book you have to live your own life everyone life is different before this book old school of the lifestyle its a bond love and trust nothing about abuse fine to live how you want but don't think your life based on a book you read be original not a copy to many copies going around best to one and only priceless. But their mind be parts you like about the book not saying stop your life live how you want it but be the way you want to be treated but the author her guy went through abuse but she was off and on til he grow as a person but she almost left she got tired of this mistress women that taught him but he finally cut her off no person wants to deal with lies once trust is broken can never be again. Nothing should never get in the middle of your relationship; you protect your partner. Your partner should be number one in private and public if one can't do it then they lost your respect know your value and respect be selective who you allow in your life and heart.
Good D will never come to you saying they are a D they will be willing to get to know you on true level never force things you never have to question them they already come with respect. The leading hand is the one need to prove they can respect you as you will and respect your temple or the gate is closed.

Cello Trance​{for You} • Dec 1, 2024

Yeah, that's awful. That's just somebody that wants to get their rocks off at your expense. You should tell them to go buy a playboy or something.

What these guys may not realize is that submissive women will kick your ass if you ask them to do things like that.

On the flipside, when I know somebody, I send them a dick pic. I send them a photo of Dick Van Dyke.

VertigoakaFJR​(dom male) • Dec 2, 2024

If a "dom" (copying the lowercast theme and agree) wants nudes. First they are massive Red flag. Second they aren't a Dom. Third they more than likely a horny wannabe trying to get his jollys.

Just because someone is a submissive doesn't make them "their" submissive. You choose who you submit to. You can be hardass evil bitch in day to day public (not saying you are but you could act like that) and with your Dom you submit fully to him and him alone. Just like Dom may act in public as submissive to other but behind closed doors is a hard ass Dom. (Reminds me of fight club service staffer but at fight club the guy is fighter).

Repect and trust is earn not given away freely to any Tom "Dick" or Harry. Just like submission is earned and given not demanded or taken.