South Carolina, United States
About me
My plan to go abroad, travel, teach English as foreign language is still sitting right in the middle of my brain. 

Honesty is the only way for me.  Sounds logical, but people have different ideas about what honesty looks like, sounds like. 
I have met a total of 5 people that respected this concept. People will say yes , I want you to be honest. Only to find out that means the truth  if it aligns with what is in their head. 

I am a literal person,  I have a large vocabulary which should trip the wire inside your head that I am/was a reader, a lover of the written word. I have not read any books in a long while. However I am up on researching, 2hat do you need to know? Lol, seriously. 

I am good at looking at large amounts of data, collating, then reaching  a conclusion. 
If you want a bimbo, I'm not ever going to be that. 

Imy ChooChoo is my best friend and quite simply, I Love Her More Than Anything On This Planet.

My family turned against me when crapdemic came  around. 
That's all there is to say on this subject in this about me section. 


I am reserved somewhat these days and frankly that is due to realizing people deliberately like fucking with people's heads. There was a time in my life that I would have verbally laid you out. 

Now it just makes me want to puke. 

(? I am still a force unlike anything you may have ever seen or known. I don't quit, if it is never to accomplished, then I bow out gracefully. If there is a chance I will keep trying. This applies to many things in this life. 

Some may call me weird . I have been told that my heart is a good one. 

I don't cotton to fake anything including people. 

A good way to get to know me is to be yourself. If you are a person who can't show emotion ,laugh with me, or you don't like someone who years up whenever she sees an animal in distress, I am not the person for you. 

I want someone who will explore with me, but I'm not looking for a hook-up, a play date ( it would take a long time if that would ever happen) .

I am looking for a relationship, one where we grow together, but I need someone who is patient. I'm not looking for a saint. I ask questions , 

During a scene, maybe could be an appropriate time for this behavior, then again under some role play maybe. 


Please be 50 or older,  at the very least no one under 40. 

I'm not a dog so don't tell me you are going to train me. 
I'm not a fan of conditioning , nudge theory , nor hypnosis. I do things because I want to do them, I enjoy doing them. I CAN compromise but that involves  negotiation. 

If you are looking for a house maid, please keep going. I do not mind cleaning and helping around a household, but I do not live to clean.  

BDSM and me
I am at my best when I am doing for someone, helping them. This does not mean I want to serve you, or him, or that one over there. It's rare that I interact with a man that piques my sub soul.

If you can not have a conversation and answer questions about vanilla stiff, then I'm not interested in speaking about kink stuff. 

I will never let my hair down, reveal, be vulnerable for someone who wants to shroud themselves in mystery. 

Why would I? This type of trust is earned and people can say what they want, but unless a Dom is giving transparency, the same as they expect from their sub,  in some little corner pocket of a subs mind, their is doubt, unless they have been conditioned to something else. 

I don't want a married man.  I do not want to be on someone's list of things to do, I don't want to be number 2 or 3 or 4. 

The more submissive I feel, the more I will give, which requires me needing more from my  Dom. It is the natural way. Sure there are relationships where it's all one sided and sub may seem content, pretty sure the Dom is and that is okay for their dynamic. 
I desire a relationship where I grow and my Dom grows then and we can grow together, I discover new ways to bring him happiness and pleasure thereby he is (should) be inspired to keep on his toes and me in the dynamic. 

It's all a circle , no side. If you don't like circles draw any geometric shape, but my point is no one shape is bigger than the other.  

I'm not sure this makes sense, I will have to read it in a few days. 

It never ceases to amaze me when a man labeling themselves as Dom , Master, etc ask or demand things that I would never do maybe not even if we were together. You see I do not think in terms like that. 

Please if you have preconceived notions of what a sub is, do not stop here, I'm just trying to save some folks their time. You will get exasperated, or angry, or maybe you will treat me disrespectfully, I will not put up with that nonsense. ImME, that is my moniker and while I  need to improve in ways, you will not know those ways by chatting with me for 5 minutes.  I don't live in a hive connected at the brain to all other submissives. 

That thinking makes me laugh then it pisses me off. For all the talk and writings that I have encountered where the Dom has insight and will state, I know all subs are not alike. Or I realize that subs are different and individuals or something similar, I find it surprising the number of ones I have encountered that try and put me in their box labeled a sub is or does............ I do not like boxes and I will kick the sides or top off and you may get kicked in the process. 

I am an individual and intelligent. If you do NOT  respect women, or you think women are inferior to you, or you don't have the capability to be friends with me, then I don't have the desire to be ANYTHING with you. I am not being hateful, this is what honesty looks like. 

I understand that people are just people. I do not screw people over, steal, rarely borrow money, these types of things are part of who I am. I don't have to think about them. 

I will speak my piece/peace in a forum discussion, there are a few souls in the Cage that have taken a dislike to it or me or both. 
That is the way people are, I'm good with it. What I am not good with, are those who rewrite my words, and it's obvious that their words change my narrative. This is so disrespectful. 

That can be done without changing or bring in words that I never wrote or could it be that I was in the right ball park. There is another pervasive thought process that I have run into. 
It may be that the above is connected to this. It seems that some Doms around the Cage believe it's their purpose, or their right to tell an s-type they are wrong, are too much, or , or, or , or ........

I have experienced this more than once, I have experienced someone with the title Dom, and a sub rewrite my comment words and then be pissy when I stand up for myself every time. I write what I mean. If I  feel as if I made a mistake, I'm not too proud to apologize to someone. I am in touch with that aspect of me. Humbleness and I are not strangers . 
The rest of the time, I'm going to stand up to whomever engages in this type of behavior. I may step into a situation that does not involve me. I have been known to take up for someone. Not as much as I used to, but I still do it sometimes . 

There is something wrong with a person who changes another person's thoughts so that they can have a better agenda. I don't do agendas unless I choose to make that person my agenda. 
I have seen this behavior from both sides of the slash. 

My profile does start with me describing going abroad. I do not have a Dom, I do not see one on the horizon, therefore I am living my life. If someone came/comes along that we connect, then me going abroad should not affect that no more so then where I live now. 

I will say that I have no interest in moving to any cold areas. 
If I can not swim from May till the end of September, (this is an example) then it's not a place I'm going to be happy. I could deal with it  temporarily if I know that the situation will get better.
My kink limits can be discussed with the one who will respect them. 

I erased what I had here. It occurred to me if a person doesn't already know what behaviors are rude, then they may not be old enough to be using this platform legally. Lying is crappy and at the first wink of a lie, I will just go away. 

I will be pondering on some boundaries I have that may be weird or something and list them if I come up with any.
What's new
I have forgiven, that is not to say I may not struggle, but for my peace of mind I have forgiven.
I'm still in and out on this.
Update date
May 10, 2023
Member since
Apr 14, 2020
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