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South Carolina, United States
About me

My plan to go abroad, travel, teach English as foreign language is still sitting right in the middle of my brain. 

Honesty is the only way for me.  Sounds logical, but people have different ideas about what honesty looks like, sounds like. 
I have met a total of 5 people that respected this concept. People will say yes, I want you to be honest. Only to find out,  the truth for them is if what I say aligns with what is in their head. 

I am a literal person,  I have a large vocabulary which should trip the wire inside your head that I am/was a reader, a lover of the written word. I have not read any books in a long while. However, I am up on researching, what do you need to know? Lol, seriously!

I am good at looking at large amounts of data, collating, then reaching  a conclusion. 
If you want a bimbo, I'm not ever going to be that. 

My ChooChoo is my best friend.  Quite simply, I Love Her More Than Anything or Anyone On This Planet...

My family turned against me when crapdemic came  around. 
That's all there is to say on this subject.  

*There is one more thing, just because I learned new information does not mean that I fall apart. The only thing that changed was my knowledge, if one thinks about when they discover something unpleasant about a family member, a friend. 

I will be okay when I am in my own space. 


I am somewhat reserved, although some here may not agree, but when it comes to sharing personal things, I'm not going to be a fountain. That would involve a dominant being vulnerable also)
With all the online interactions, people seem to feel that they can overstep. I wish you well, but you should stay away from me if you want to go with the  fallacy routine (usually ad hominems). 

*I will counter what someone says, isn't that a perk to being an adult, that I get to speak/write when I like not just when someone allows me to speak!!

But this does not equate to arguing. 

⁰⁰I don't quit if I feel like I can change something, learn something, If there is a chance I will keep trying. This applies to many things in this life)

* The above paragraph seemed a little creepy? So here is my addendum. 

 *I want to be able to say that I did my best...

I don't cotton to fake anything including people. 

A good way to get to know me is to be yourself. If you are a person who can't show emotion, laugh with me, or you don't like someone who tears up whenever she sees an animal in distress, I am not the person for you. 

I want someone who will explore with me, but I'm not looking for a hook-up, a play date ( it would take a long time if that would ever happen).

I am looking for a relationship, one where we grow together, but I need someone who is patient. I'm not looking for a saint. I ask questions which has been described as argumentative. People who think this way are confused.

Please be 50 or older,  at the very least no one under 40. I hesitate to assign a number because no two people are alike. I do not want to limit myself around an age, but a little common sense, so in the twenties and thirties, would most likely not be a compatible situation. 

I'm not a dog so don't tell me you are going to train me. 
I'm not a fan of conditioning , nudge theory , nor hypnosis. I do things because I want to do them, I enjoy doing them. I CAN compromise but that involves negotiation. 

* I want someone who wants to be around me, laugh, we teach each other.
You will have to like me,. 
The cold and arrogant dominant is just that. 
If that's the only way someone knows how to Dom, perhaps you could learn some new skills! 

If you are looking for a house maid, please keep going. I do not mind cleaning and helping around a household, but I do not live to clean. 

*I actually like activities that I can see my work. Why? I enjoy seeing the fruits of my labor. 

I would rather mow the grass,  pull weeds,  dig in the dirt, unload some top soil for a special spot, then put some mulch in, maybe put some some sod out. (Sniggling) 

*Sniggling is a fun word. 


BDSM and me
I am at my best when I am doing for someone, helping them. This does not mean I want to serve you, or him, or that one over there. It's rare that I interact with a man that piques my sub soul.

If you can not have a conversation and answer questions about vanilla stiff, then I'm not interested in speaking about kink stuff. 

I will never let my hair down, reveal, be vulnerable for someone who wants to shroud themselves in mystery. 

Why would I? This type of trust is earned and people can say what they want, but unless a Dom is giving transparency, the same as they expect from their sub, in some little corner pocket of a subs mind, their is doubt, unless they have been conditioned to something else. 

I don't want a married man.  I do not want to be on someone's list of things to do. 

The more submissive I feel, the more I will give, which requires me needing more from my  Dom. It is the natural way. Sure there are relationships where it's all one sided and sub may seem content, pretty sure the Dom is and that is okay for their dynamic. 
I desire a relationship where I grow and my Dom grows then and we can grow together, I discover new ways to bring him happiness and pleasure thereby he is (should) be inspired to keep on his toes and me in the dynamic. 

It's all a circle , no side. If you don't like circles draw any geometric shape, but my point is no one shape is bigger than the other.  

I'm not sure this makes sense, I will have to read it in a few days. 

It never ceases to amaze me when a man labeling themselves as Dom , Master, etc ask or demand things or even insinuate things about me.⁶

Please if you have preconceived notions of what a sub is, do not stop here, I'm just trying to _ folks their time. You will get exasperated, or angry, or maybe you will treat me disrespectfully, I will not put up with that nonsense. ImME, that is my moniker and while I  need to improve in ways, you will not know those ways by chatting with me for 5 minutes.  I don't live in a hive connected at the brain to all other submissives. 

That thinking makes me laugh then it pisses me off. For all the talk and writings that I have encountered where the Dom has insight and will state, I know all subs are not alike or I realize that subs are different and individuals or something similar but they are exactly what I said. ) 

I am an individual and intelligent. If you do NOT  respect women, or you think women are inferior to you, or you don't have the capability to be friends <<>>>>,, me, then I don't have the desire to be ANYTHING with you. I am not being hateful, this is what honesty looks like. 

I understand that people are just people. I do not screw people over, steal, rarely borrow money, these types of things are part of who I am. I don't have to think about them. 

I will speak my piece/peace in a forum discussion, there are a few souls in the Cage that have taken a dislike to it or me or both. 
That is the way people are, I'm good with it. What I am not good with, are those who rewrite my words, and it's obvious that their words change my narrative. This is so disrespectful. 

That can be done without changing or bring in words that I never wrote or could it be that I was in the right ball park. There is another pervasive thought process that I have run into. 
It may be that the above is connected to this. It seems that some Doms around the Cage believe it's their purpose, or their right to tell an s-type they are wrong, are too much, or , or, or , or ........

I have experienced this more than once, I have experienced someone with the title Dom, and a sub rewrite my comment words and then be pissy when I stand up for myself every time. I write what I mean. If I feel as if I made a mistake, I'm not too proud to apologize to someone. I am in touch with that aspect of me. Humbleness and I are not strangers. 

The rest of the time, I'm going to stand up to whomever engages in this type of behavior. I may step into a situation that does not involve me. I have been known to take up for a stranger. Amore then once. Not as much as I used to, but I still do it sometimes. 

There is something wrong with a person who changes another person's thoughts so that they can have a better agenda. I don't do agendas unless I choose to make that person my agenda. 
I have seen this behavior from both sides of the slash. 

My profile does start with me describing going abroad. I do not have a Dom, I do not see one on the horizon, therefore I am living my life. If someone came/comes along that we connect, then me going abroad should not affect that no more so then where I live now. 

I will say that I have no interest in moving to any cold areas. 
If I can not swim from May till the end of September, (this is an example) then it's not a place I'm going to be happy. I could deal with it  temporarily if I know that the situation will get better.
My kink limits can be discussed with the one who will respect them. 

I erased what I had here. It occurred to me if a person doesn't already know what behaviors are rude, then they may not be old enough to be using this platform legally. Lying is crappy and at the first wink of a lie, I will just go away. 

I will be pondering on some boundaries I have that may be weird or something and list them if I come up with any.
What's new
I have forgiven, that is not to say I may not struggle, but for my peace of mind I have forgiven.
I'm still in and out on this.

*They recede more and more...
Update date
Mar 25, 2024
Member since
Apr 14, 2020
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