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Is addressing HER as Mistress Really Respectful ?

Ms MaryJane{NOT LOOKIN}
9 months ago • Feb 23, 2024
Ms MaryJane{NOT LOOKIN} • Feb 23, 2024
Mistress is a title. Not all Dommes go by that title or titles/honorificas at all. It is how they choose to be addressed that matters not a sub just calling all Dommes Mistresses. Addressing all Dommes as Mistress shows their lack of education in the lifestyle and shows they need to get their BDSM, kink education going if they want to go further in this lovely lifestyle....just my humble opinion anyway icon_surprised.gif)
vv V vv​(sadist male)
9 months ago • Feb 24, 2024
vv V vv​(sadist male) • Feb 24, 2024
Mastress is what my eyes see

Mattress is what my mind interprets because the eyes can’t be trusted.

Why it’s sounding like someone with a Boston accent saying it is beyond me.
sissy rosie
9 months ago • Feb 24, 2024
sissy rosie • Feb 24, 2024
Like most things in BDSM it's all highly individual.

To echo everyone else, it's best to ask what She wants to be called.
chastitybound{Yes }
3 months ago • Jul 30, 2024
chastitybound{Yes } • Jul 30, 2024
Personally, I will ask a Domme how I should address Her. If I'm owned, which I am currently, I know how She wants to be addressed and I use Her preferred title in every conversation as a matter of respect.
TopekaDom​(dom male)
3 months ago • Jul 30, 2024
TopekaDom​(dom male) • Jul 30, 2024
While I won't reiterate things already discussed her, one does have to understand that the word "Mistress" has been perverted by those who do not like sex and or women. Don't fall into their way of thinking.
Miss Foxglove​(dom female)
1 month ago • Oct 4, 2024

Mistress - An honorific, a show of respect for the position

Well, those of us in the know in the BDSM lifestyle do not have this problem, as we all unambiguously understand it to be an honorific used within a D/s dynamic. Those on the "Vanilla" side of society don't know anything beyond society's plain definition. When in mixed company, you would refer to her as Mrs. [insert name] and their association with you, i.e., [job title] or "friend." Otherwise, when in likeminded company, the honorifics are a show of respect for the position she holds. It matters to those who are involved and those who wish to reinforce the respect by using the honorific if it is allowed. This tends to be mostly within high protocol settings and the local rules of whomever is hosting the event or gathering. Online also has its share of high/medium/low protocol rules as well. The social protocols tend to direct you to whatever level of behavior is expected in the space.

You will find that each person also has their own preferences you usually learn about upon first meeting them. I expect my submissives to show respect towards me and those whom I interact with, but I do not require someone else's submissives to refer to me as the same unless that is how their dominant prefers it.
Hopefully this helps.
~ Foxglove
Kelpi
1 month ago • Oct 4, 2024
Kelpi • Oct 4, 2024
As a Dom Master is what I am called but then I never insist on it. Master is something that comes from her not anything else. Since we are not in England being called my lord would seem a bit funny. If she wants to be addressed as mistress so be it. If you feel better about calling her my Lady. Then see if it fits and ask how she feels about it. Yes my Lady No my Lady and as always "as you wish".
LatexHer​(dom male)
1 month ago • Oct 4, 2024
LatexHer​(dom male) • Oct 4, 2024
When I get mail from a Dominant Woman and her profile shows that she is a Dominatrix, I will address her as Mistress in my response. Not a big deal to show some respect. I don't Demand that people address me as Master/Sir until I have met with that woman and set some ground rules first.

Jon LatexHer