Why

Truemasterkai • Sep 18, 2024

I am generally against forming relationships online and this is one of the reasons. It's very easy for people to abandon the responsibility they assume when they start to form something with someone. And yes, I do mean responsibility in a serious sense. You shouldn't egg people on and waste their time, effort and emotions if you can't or won't reciprocate the same seriousness.

But sure. There are many possible reasons. Just consider yourself lucky that they outed themselves as someone who isn't in a position to commit to something. Better here and now than way later down the line.

Miki​(masochist female) • Sep 18, 2024

@ Truemasterkai: I never got into starting things Online either, but for a different reason. Though the odds are slim, the next Ted Bundy is out there somewhere and however remote the chances of coming into contact with a sicko like that-- It Only Takes One. I'm a dimunitive woman and as such, there's no such thing as "too careful"

chattel​(sub female) • Sep 18, 2024

A few of the millions of possibilities

She got back with her ex

She was about to be cheating with you and had second thoughts

She was about to be cheating with you and he found the email and blocked you

Another guy she was talking to sounded better

She didn't realize (fill in the blank) about you until she reread your profile

Angel Wings​(sub female) • Sep 18, 2024

Perhaps they are not patient and thought you wasn't interested or didn't reply quickly enough. If days had gone by maybe this is a reason.

Miki​(masochist female) • Sep 18, 2024

That, too. But in the case where "a few days" of no contact have not gone by then it's just simply "ghosting"--- A familiar theme.

Ghosting... The province of cowards and those who lack the decency to at least write one last time to say "the chemistry ain't happening" and / or "Thanks but no thanks."

Fortunately, experienced "ghostees" quickly learn to say "Fuck 'em" and move on.

DigitalLupine​(other male) • Sep 18, 2024

I can do a profile deep dive to see if there are any things that could have been perceived as red flags? But as other's have repeated and echoed it could be for a variety of reasons. Shrug, sob if needed and move on. I get the frustration of thinking you have a connection and it doesn't pan out.

DidiRN​(sub female) • Sep 18, 2024

I honestly don't think that blocking without letting someone know the issue is a very mature way to handle things. I try to give warnings if I don't like something and if the behavior persists I block. At the very least I try to send a "this isn't going to work good luck" or "goodbye" message before I block. I have also been on the other side and been blocked with no reason given, hell one guy blocked me without even talking to me. It's not a good feeling, and I hate not knowing what I did wrong.

At this point I'm not looking for more that friends, but it's good I'm learning this before I start letting big feelings get involved.

Angel Wings​(sub female) • Sep 18, 2024

[quote="Miki"]

That, too. But in the case where "a few days" of no contact have not gone by then it's just simply "ghosting"--- A familiar theme.

WellI I hope a few days isn't considered ghosting because at times I am away and busy and cannot reply to a message. Or course if in a dynamic it's different. I am sure rules have been made and agreed upon. Casually talking with someone I don't see a few days going by that extreme.

lambsone • Sep 18, 2024

Well I got my answer. He thought he lost his phone but it turns out that he was putting a piece of equipment away from his home remodeling business and ran over it.

He didn't know that's what happened until he finally found it all smashed. He said when he got the new phone he had voicemail and text messages coming out of his ears. Hahaha ....

Miki​(masochist female) • Sep 19, 2024

[quote="Angel Wings"]

In the case of the original post, the recipient blocked the dude after what started out as a decent conversation. Who can tell for sure.

I did NOT write that ghosting was "after a couple days" .

When I mentioned "a couple days" I was referring to ghoster / blocker r reacting like that after the ghostee doesn't reply for a couple days.

Ghosting does not have a set time period. People are busy, sure but no one is going to convince me that, with so many people who cannot live without their phones at their side 24/7, even use them while in the shithouse while taking a dump, wiping their ass or just hanging a leak, they're married to the damned things.

So whether or not they have the Cage app, or just log in through the phone's browser -- that one can't find a minute to send a quick "I'll get back to you, I'm very busy these days" message-- or in the case of the relationship being a non-starter, a quick note to say so. --- is baloney. i They simply don't want to find that minute.

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So yes, total silence, even after a couple days, and obviously any block at all -- can reasonably be called ghosting.

There are very few excuses for that (illness, natural disaster, family crises-- sure.. ) The rest of the "I'm too busy" excuses are lame-ass crap, Period