Thoughts on FLRs??

Thoughts on FLRs??

DevineDani​(dom female) • Nov 12, 2024

Anyone care to share their thoughts and experiences with FLRs? I have had one in the past( short lived) but ideally see myself only being in another relationship if it is a FLR.

bigtexan • Nov 13, 2024

Never had the pleasure... they're very hard to find. Even women I've known who initially present themselves as "dominant" wind up wanting to be submissive to me.

Sweet Minx​(sub female) • Nov 13, 2024

Sorry but what is a FLR?

vv V vv​(sadist male) • Nov 13, 2024

Female Led Relationship

Ms MaryJane • Nov 14, 2024

I would love to find one again. It is hard to find the right man for a relationship like that. So many guys think just because they want to be pegged makes them a sub. So definitely to find a good service oriented sub that doesn't think Femdom and D/s is just about kinky sex. It is doable. Just takes work on finding one who is serious enough.

Foop​(sub male) • Dec 2, 2024

I would really love to one day live in a Female led relationship. Objective and subjective, I think it would be the absolute best relationship for me. But it would not be without challenge. As much as I like to subordinate myself, I am also used to doing things the way I see fit . I would probably have to bite my tongue more then once or twice before I got used to living in such a relation. But on the other hand that is a change I’d love to do, the tongue will heals eventually and having to struggle a little in life is what makes you feel alive.

Her little cuck • Dec 3, 2024

I must be one of the “unicorns” because my last 3-4 relationships have ALL been FLR’s. I’m not sure I could feel comfortable in a vanilla relationship, TBH. My last GF, the love of my life, had total say in our relationship. She cuckolded me as She pleased. She would have me fetch a hairbrush and would put me over Her knees when I misbehaved. (Unfortunately, She suffered from severe depression and took Her own life … sorry for the downer info, but that’s the only reason I’m not with Her anymore.)
I would LOVE to find someone exactly like Her again, but without the depression, obviously. I would love to even just have a friendship with a FemDomme , to be able to have discussions about this lifestyle. I have always been curious about the FLR experience from the Woman’s point of view. Unfortunately, there are so many con artists out there … fake women trying to scam men because they confuse “submissive” with weak. I would love to hear your thoughts on being in an FLR from Your perspective!

altarboy​(sub male) • Dec 3, 2024

Perhaps I misunderstand the concept of an FLR, but most guys posting on here seem to be looking for a 24x7 D/s relationship rather than an FLR. In most relationships, including vanilla, there tends be a natural leader, and whilst men like to see themselves as the head of the household, the hunter gatherer etc etc, it's often the female who holds the real power, a soft under lying power, the old adage "I'm the head of the household and have my wife's permission to say so" is often very true.

I think the basis of an FLR is formally recognised matriarchy, where the lady has a vision and a plan for where the relationship is heading for the benefit of all parties. This could require the acceptance of "re-education" on the part of the male, to help him see past his ego and the facade he's been presenting to the world all these years. Not sure fetish would still be the correct word in this context, but any or all aspects could appropriate, it's no longer fetish for fetish's sake once it has a deeper purpose

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Dec 4, 2024

I think the FLR term has become interchangeable with 24/7 Just like sub and slave. To some the boundaries are VERY clear to others the lines cross and blurr. I think what is more important is making sure the one you are with, is on the same page as you. Then applying your own label and being clear on what it means to YOU and YOURS.

Can FLR work? Sure if it's your thing. BDSM is like those pesky storage container lids, you know the matching lid is there somewhere! You just need to keep looking and find the right top other wise everything spoils!

20 years ago, FLR had no component of BDSM, she was the decision maker and head of household. Then I remember seeing a small fraction adding corrective spankings..... Fast forward and you now need to ask some "by FLR, what do you mean" ...but like I said above, you now also need to ask what is a slave to you and whats 24/7 to you because most are clueless and see a badly label video and assume that's the right term. Then they throw at you Femspreme and the whole discussion starts again! I'm Femdom and that again is different by OLD definitions. I tend to overlook a lot of people (when seeking poly partners) because they ask me for the (wrong to me) terminologies. I'm getting better at just seeing people and then working it out from there. Granted it takes longer but it does clear out all expectations and make eventualities, more possible reality.

Steellover​(sub male) • Dec 5, 2024

I think the term "FLR" means different things to different people. And it isn't necessarily always what you think it is.

I had a friend that was in a Female Led Relationship. They didn't call it that, but that's what it was. Neither he nor his partner were the least bit kinky; they were in fact both about as vanilla as communion wafers. But she was totally domineering, demanding, bossy, intrusive, haranging, and an extreme helicopter parent- to the point where she burned herself out before she burned him and her kids from mental stress. A "Stella" to his "Harcourt Fenton Mudd." in other words (I hope some of you get that reference...) It was a female led relationship, and it failed.

For most of us, there has to be some balance. Some kind of life balance, boundaries, and mutual fulfillment. And for most of us submissives; and I'm speaking for myself here- there needs to be some "Spice." (I.e. kink.) A domineering vanilla relationship may be dominating but when it becomes merely domineering, without boundaries, balance, or any kind of fulfillment, it can become unsustainable.

But hopeless romantic that I am, I still believe with the right balance, understanding, chemistry- it could work- because I WANT it to work and want a person whose life I can complete- and vice versa.