bdsamworld(sub female){collared}
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2 months ago •
Oct 5, 2024
The question of whether individuals are genuinely seeking serious relationships in today's tumultuous social landscape is a complex one, often met with the abrupt acknowledgment that, while some indeed are in search of something meaningful, these seekers appear to be few and far between. This scarcity is further exacerbated by an array of modern societal pressures—rife with personal upheavals such as divorces, the final breaths of long-term partnerships, infidelities, and the psychological strain brought on by the global pandemic and political landscape. These experiences do not just alter individual perspectives on love and commitment; they create a pervasive ambiance of distrust and emotional fatigue, which often translates into hesitancy to commit. Amidst this chaos, one can observe an intriguing paradox: an overwhelming number of individuals actively expressing their longing for something “real” or “serious” on digital platforms, yearning for authentic connections that seem eternally out of reach.
Interestingly, the repeated desire for serious relationships seems to be a mere veneer for many users of online dating platforms and social forums. Upon initiating conversations aimed at exploring the potential for deeper connections, an observable shift occurs—what was once framed as a pursuit of love and meaningful engagement quickly devolves into a dialogue dominated by casual intentions. This shift not only underscores the challenge of genuine connection in a digitized social landscape but also reflects a broader cultural desensitization towards commitment. The allure of instant gratification often overshadows the pursuit of lasting bonds, with individuals gravitating towards fleeting encounters rather than implementing the emotional investment necessary for a serious relationship. This phenomenon indicates a collective avoidance of vulnerability, as people may prefer the safety of superficial interactions over the potential for deeper emotional risks associated with establishing a committed partnership. Delving further, it is crucial to consider the psychological ramifications of these modern-day dynamics, particularly in light of the mental health issues that many have faced in recent years. The rise of discussions surrounding mental well-being, amplified by societal shifts during the COVID-19 pandemic, creates an environment where emotional readiness becomes a significant barrier to forming lasting relationships. Potential partners might carry invisible baggage—past traumas, trust issues, and self-doubt—that complicate their capacity to fully engage in a romantic endeavor. These weights often contribute to a pattern where individuals oscillate between the desire for meaningful connection and the innate human instinct to protect oneself, ultimately causing a disconnect between intentions and actions. Thus, the yearning for seriousness in relationships often wrestles with the deep-seated insecurities and emotional scars that inhibit fostering genuine connections, leaving a dichotomous existence that oversimplifies the complexities of modern love. Ultimately, while the answer to whether people seek serious relationships today is, in fact, an emphatic yes, the underlying landscape is convoluted by personal, societal, and emotional factors that profoundly affect these intentions. The prevalence of superficial interactions, the impact of past relational failures, and the ongoing struggle with mental health challenges create a vivid tableau of conflicted motivations among those navigating the realm of love. Consequently, the desire for something real often gets lost in translation, entrapped in a culture that seems to prioritize immediate satisfaction over the arduous endeavor of cultivating enduring and meaningful connections. This current state thus demands a more nuanced understanding, requiring both individuals and society at large to reflect on what they truly desire, challenging them to reconcile their yearning for commitment with the realities of emotional complexity in a post-pandemic world. Life's garden can sometimes feel overwhelming, packed with challenges that seem to sprout like weeds. However, don't let that fatigue deter you from seeking out the beautiful moments that coexist with those struggles. Embrace the journey, as every effort you make helps nurture not only the blooms but your personal growth as well. It's natural to feel tired while navigating through the chaos, but remember, every flower thrives amidst the weeds. Each moment of struggle builds resilience, showing that the most rewarding experiences often require patience and perseverance. So, keep tending your garden; the beauty is well worth the effort! Enjoy the journey, embrace the positives, and just keep going. |
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Softnote(masochist female)
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1 month ago •
Nov 9, 2024
Become more serious with yourself become the person you seek the partner date yourself , invest in yourself , romance your self and life , but do with flow. But finding someone will take time you will go through a few people you can befriend people be kind but take your time have a soul friendship get to know people have peace can't be a rush has to be friendship before it can be anything in time. I know everyone wants love but this day and time find soul friendship and companionship with courtship but be selective with your heart. When the last time you trilled your self and had laughter and bit of seduction you gotta make happiness to create happiness in time will show you in most serendipity way find something good with out looking. Be the energy you want to attract" is a concept that suggests using your thoughts, beliefs, and feelings to get what you want. Buy yourself something nice but also send love. Don't have to seek or look just be be attraction. Play , dance sing , explore things and learn and grow the more you can dance with love. Going to take some patience but this one thing keep self busy but make time. Fine to do things get close and dance be merry but don't get attached til you know its right real connection is rare with a spark. I had to learn not to have attachments this more of a buddha thing but make room for people still be listening ear enjoy yourself and company til you know its right then grow more in to it. But if it leaves only teaching you was for short time your free they are free please keep going rise and sprinkle some love on yourself. But I will send you some light some free energy please take care of yourself and listen when your body needs to rest you are burn out re balance takes a goddess to revive another. I turn on some music I dance I have feel that energy put some nice spray on that really bring the your spirit back to life.
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Softnote(masochist female)
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3 weeks ago •
Dec 5, 2024
Break the shell but this the truth. People will not open up unless its the same and they feel safe with that person. He/She/They
Sorry you had to go through it but it was an experience. But no connection can be the same if does not match up if they not feeling it on their end how it is you just gotta go with the flow take a deep breath and say thanks wish the best or stay friends no hard feelings you just gotta keep celebrating you will go through few people will be some unmatched and some come in your life for your short time to show you piece of the puzzle it's more for you to take with you or a memory just make sure you don't forget yourself pat yourself on the back take yourself out , go for a walk go see what on tv cool off. Take things into moderation not getting married tonight but you marry yourself every night. You would just rush cause that cause to get hurt the wrong connection can feel like roommate prison mate why gotta be the breaking apart. People love people but some must keep going till you find that match they feel the same. Everyone's lifestyle also diffren't and Pandora's box but somehow it has to match up also it truly has to be soul click and soul love no soul no love. Gotta be more than a body and look but what's inside and out have a hood mind and ego. I know one is perfect but working on it to get better with time. Value self enough" but to actually follow through with actions not just words....I truly believe we attract the energies we put out there. When a sub it feels physically and emotionally safe that when a sub will only open up when trust and respect is their. A women brain cannot relax until she feels physically and emotionally safe. A lot of ones don't understand how much energy expend checking that they're safe. providing and environment where she can turn that part of your brain lets her truly settle into their femininity. ༉‧₊˚🕯️🖤❀༉‧₊˚. As Our Men heal , Our Women heal. As Women heal , Our Men Heal.. as both heal....Our World Heals. 🤍☁️🌿🍃✨️ Leading hand should be your mentor , guide , and refine you: groom you to obedience , ladylike and subservient that they are proud of you. But should never try to change your essence. ദ്ദി(˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ ) ✧ The craft of a master is not improving dominance but winning submission. 👏👌 To submit to another means to let your mind rest , to place your body in to path of consummate pleasure and give a gift that should be masterfully taken. ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡ She became his prey to be devoted in the most delicious way. Capture in his web of love and safety. 😊 Don't tell me. Show me. Any man can give you sex it takes a special man to make love to you with his own words. Love isn't where we hide ghosts. Love is where we release them. Who would drive five hours. Just to see you for one. Having deep connection with someone changes you forever. The women came out of a man's rib not from his feet to be walked on , and not from his head to be superior , but from his side to be equal. Under a arm to be protected , and next to the heart to be loved. Hope , Weird , Happy Little heart finds just as weird fun -loving as you are. Dates , healthy , communication , room to grow , quality time , reassurance , Reciprocated energy. What really crave of love , is finding someone with whom we feel safe to reveal our truest , most authentic self , without the fear of judgment. Lady's will walk in the shadow's when Gentlemen start acting like Gentlemen , And Gentlemen will come out of the shadow's when Lady's start acting like Lady. Just be a lady and a gentleman show up as one be the way you want to attract the right ones. You don't have to be a trillionaire to have manners as manners are everywhere. The way you act what you get back so treat yourself with value gives the same out with value. Be the way you want to be treated you would want your daughter or mother or family treated like crap then work on being better. More like old money not need to show off just show up does matter just clean up good being your manners with in life to classy to casual just be good person but never take crap but do in a nice way leave more peacefully. Everyone is looking for something serious and committed but they are on reserve at first. But a connection has to match up on the same page with a soul click with chemistry and mentally physical feeling and more. A connection can not be truly forced; it takes two people to feel the same one can not just feel it has to be the right vibration at that right time. But you get to know people but it does mean going to be a match but if you both have great connection and conversation and you click but it takes time. A relationship not going to happen in a conversation it does sorta need to be friendship with courtship but not diving in to quickly grow the connection but you are into the person never be pushed it need to go by flow. Don't get hooked right away, get emotionally invested first. But people wanna know you are the person behind the profile. It goes both ways so exchange some clean photo's and go to a safe app to talk or video and voice that it stays in grown mature nothing silly still have to get to know further like asking what your fav color is. One thing that loses interest when someone comes to sub they say I am a D and looking for sub slut and long term so if you're interested let me know this does not work. Just show up as Being yourself, be the Dominance in a mannerly way just get to know the person, don't rush the words of relationship or that one is a D. Just come with manners not horn dog mind think before you leap this goes both ways as well. Know one's going to have feelings right away come on so don't pull the crap. You can be a little vanilla with conversation but be creative and keep the conversation going or people get bored. Trust is one thing but when someone is not being truthful or they are not asking like they said they were or don't look the same as profile or pictures and lies come out as trust is broken it can never be again that just how it is why people have boundaries. Some are shy and still getting to know themself so it's good to take it slow, don't jump with questions that are going to lose interest and try to keep positive. People are getting smarter to understand what vibes with them. It takes getting to know someone in a few messages. A few day's or a few weeks depends but you must keep going with life, go with the flow but share what you eat that night, what you're watching on tv how about both having some wine and talk on an app. Just people don't wanna meet right away even if it's not going to happen.Goes online to real you will need to go to virtual place depending if you are long distance but stay on the site and check in hafe respect for each other chase real value not fake if you only looking for one keep your word cause grown person will not put up with all over the place they find someone that will give them respect. Dance , Sing , read , to each other , breathe together - communicate. Don't count on sex to be the door to intimacy. It's the other way around first to develop intimacy skills . Then make love to enjoy them.We all things have a story. And no matter how much work you've done on yourself. We all snap back together. So be easy on yourself. Growth is a dance. Not a light switch.Some just want good company, a person to vibe with , converse with and laugh without in a rush. Start off simple , and let the rest find itself. To love at all is to be vulnerable Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3 am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention , when ten others people are asking for it. Intimacy is person always in the back of your mind , No matter how distracted you are. Peace https://www.instagram.com/p/DDJLsMlSo3H/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDH3XCOMd7C/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDH4pUNSpIW/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDJLhJlSXZd/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDHiqMSshZR/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDIOaV6NpN0/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDI1iMdShjL/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDIaCstzmgx/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDJ-q8YSMWQ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDISN5ty5ml/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDIZM0wMzdw/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDIgjeKS6I_/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDJZdt1yDVj/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDJvEmlSQsV/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDB9PzmhrM4/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDKlcS2peiB/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/p/DDLc4ZPxfsb/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDKXVSZTANC/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDLYgNaRdPI/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDLb9fuszH0/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDH1Ho0ThF9/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDCiaZLIsy3/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDLTdRSTNfl/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDKKtF7xaiA/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDH5Qj1RZiN/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDIHAqtIzuk/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DAl8hQBI2Bl/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCEhOqORC5t/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDC9Tc9oVjl/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDC4iaZxVa2/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link |
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Softnote(masochist female)
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3 weeks ago •
Dec 5, 2024
Yeah anyone can want it but takes that one special person to actually value you.
Not about who wants you. It's about values and respects you. Person that shows up for you every day not forcing or bragging but just be their good the bad and supports show up surprises with effect and blue prints. Someone who gets you Ride or Die , Loves you even at your lows still get in your high , Team work , Agree on things , Laugh together , Do silly things , Crazy love , Defend love in public and private , Date each other like you first met go on dates every week , spice it up , Work out together , Travel together leave without telling anyone , Keep off social media off the apps start living real Dopamine raw and real. Doing things you never did but doing with someone willing to take he fears the wildness working on together that clashes together. Make peace and love no anger that love. But good times will be bad but you must pick up for each other 50/50 /100/100 sometimes one has to one of them or both does matter You just put them on your back and you don't leave them behind. One can not do it alone. It takes two people convention you do gotta get out of the house at times and people need to make time for a little space but never allow crap to grow. But even does work out you can befriend a person maybe learn something still hang out and be the best of friends maybe you might grow closer or you meet someone through them about going and keep going allow to flow let be the peace not a headache. |
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Bunnie
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2 weeks ago •
Dec 6, 2024
I watched an interesting talk recently that suggested very few people are looking for anything serious anymore. It also stated that the average lifespan of a relationship these days, is a few months. So, not only are fewer people seeking anything serious, it also suggests we’re actually becoming incapable of maintaining anything serious.
It’s not surprising really. Our attention spans have become the length of a swipe/reel. |
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| PuppyMikey(sub trans man) |
2 weeks ago •
Dec 6, 2024
bleh i feel this totally! its awful and it sucks
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| Random Male(dom male) |
2 weeks ago •
Dec 7, 2024
Some of us are, my issue has been finding people where mutual attraction and desires don't match up. Sure, I can compromise on some things, others I can't.
Do I want a unicorn? Who doesn't? Do I expect one? Nope. I'm in my 40's now, and one pretty important thing I've learned is: It's immensely better to be alone, than with someone and still be lonely. *saunters off singing "Flowers"* |
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MDaddyForHer(dom male)
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2 weeks ago •
Dec 7, 2024
I still wonder.
I feel overused and unappreciated. I'd normally say more. Commiserate and relate a story or two. To what end anymore? TRUE Reciprocation would be great. No guilt by association would be great. We're horrible because of lifestyle. We're horrible cause we're men. We're horrible and suspicious because of the geographic state we live. Horrible cause we're divorced. Peace |
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Bunnie
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2 weeks ago •
Dec 7, 2024
“It's immensely better to be alone, than with someone and still be lonely.”
Amen to that! |
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Softnote(masochist female)
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2 weeks ago •
Dec 8, 2024
You have to be willing to believe you can have it and with love open your heart but be selective the with peace and your energy. Be kind and nice but end it well. If it rejects you its saving you something better. You can't chase things that are not the same you can't force a connection it has to match and be on the same page so just send love and light be beam of light but keep going on each day.
Create happiness to make happiness all up to you to decide , Ether worry or create better give your self peace not a headache. Not everything one read is the same or what you find online you have to be your own be willing to thrive get out the old society and belief's start living your own life what brings you peace and be the peace because peace is freedom is everything. You will need cut out hate , jealously and ego and anger and embrace life , make peace with yourself , And put softness with feminine and masculine but even hard you need both with love also their no perfect love its going to be messy , good days and bad but its picking up pieces and laughing about it pick each other back up nothing really to get mad about its having some ice cream on your toes and doing silly crazing thing but treat both like you first meet but keep that spark going . Some want the easy but their is no easy when your willing to take the climb get out the comfort zone do the research , educate yourself , grow , It's takes weeks , months years.Stop being bored with life have a vision also don't play fake be real be you be honest be creative when talking to people don't be small talker be more of your authentic self. Take your power back that belong to you that does not serve not allowed set boundaries. Your past is not your present your present new foundation is making choice who you want to be in this life good one , solid great connection two people willing open the fears and know what they want but not in desperation but willing to take the time really evolve. Be creative not horny at first keep your growth you need mentally and physically with connection and chemistry and emotionally invest before getting hooked be the reason you want wake up good tell yourself every day I deserve the great life , each day this going to be great day. Many of us had to wait 10, 20 to 40 years to really find someone. Gotta stop chasing things that are not helping you if keep being a trap get of that stat doing the things you never done to get the things you want to best to chase real dopamine the grown kind focus on being motivated like taking care yourself what you eat what you follow not supporting kind , the things make you wake up , Never stop do it slowly never a rush. The lifestyle more then fantasy this is real not a fairy tail this really reality wake with purpose. No need to chase ,beg , wait its more like show up be the attraction will all happen in the best ways in your own light when you allow love keep going it will happen in the right vibration at that right time but Serendipity is the phenomenon of finding something valuable or agreeable without looking for it. Don't focus on waiting for someone become the partner you seek flow with love allow love to come to you at the right time keep going on with life. Have courage and dust yourself off and try again never give up on your happiness be what you create be the art invest make life better as you go. Chef Auguste Gusteau: "Anyone can cook, but only the fearless can be great". Gusteau also says, "You must be imaginative, strong-hearted. You must try things that may not work, and you must not let anyone define your limits because of where you come from. Your only limit is your soul". Breathing in , I calm my body , Breathing out , I smile. Dwelling in the present moment. I know this is wonderful moment. Look at you , No longer controlling anything or anything because you understand that there are Infinite ways for the light to bring you what you want. Wisdom look good on you. You are being guided divinely at every step. You need to do is listen to your intuition stay positive and happy and trust all will work out for your highest good. Everything comes to you , at the right time. It's safe to be soften Affirmations softness is my strength in softening is my strength in softening. I find strength I trust my gentle power. You are a an alchemist. You can take any situation and transmute into something greater. You can become the master of changing negative circumstances in to positive ones. Just believe in your own dream vision and choose to embody it. The path of Man and women is to revive the divine in a world that's lost its way. Babe , don't adapt to the energy in to the room influence the energy of the room. Long story short , its your turn " And when your least expect it to that is when it will out. it hits different when you bet on yourself to win. Whatever you ask for in prayer , believe that you have received it , and it will be yours. Mark 11:24 Approved Confirmed Accepted Cleared Promoted When you do the right things for the right reasons m the right shit comes to you. Karma don't miss , blessings don't ether , Stay solid. Your aura is gorgeous because you make soul feel seen , heard , validated , loved understood , and supported. Breaking point when you start allowing the good things in your life no need to block allow to overcome heal the dna and renew life. if you don't believe in miracles , perhaps you have forgotten you are one when you came in to this world remember that. You gotta be patient when you are becoming someone you've never been before. So , I close my eyes to old ends , and open my heart to new beginnings. Write down your goals and what want to change do those things don't go chase as you should ask what you believe allow you ask for allow it to give you the guidance but up to you do the rest. Don't ask someone to be with you or own you better become the person who invests and creates the zest in your life. |
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