How to deal with Loneliness as a Submissive

How to deal with Loneliness as a Submissive

tictackid​(sub female) • Nov 30, 2024

Been feeling very lonely lately, and wanted to reach out and see what other submissives do and some ways to deal with loneliness, and redirecting your thoughts in a positive way.

LoveandDevotion​(sub female){Owned} • Nov 30, 2024

I'd like to hear what others say as well. I've been struggling with this too. I just keep trying to meet someone, that's all I know how to do, but yeah, it gets me down.

Softnote​(masochist female) • Nov 30, 2024

Loneliness I feel to me its the other way around become the company you reap. ✨
Even if you are alone ancestors are always there listening to you. Animals outside the angels at your side what ever you feel close but arch angels or thing for one you can call on if you feel alone. Carry something close to you that reminds you of that person and thing.

I love being alone at times. Sometimes you need to date yourself and be the partner for self focus on the beautiful things in life better as it goes.  I didn't look but not had a problem. I'm just selective about who allows my energy in life. That kind of thing is rare. The best kind things happen unexpectedly. Create happiness to make happiness up to you how you choose to be how you want to be.  Being sexy for self with value only you get a say in your life. Whoever wants to be in your life should be happy to even be part of it.  Be the attraction but if they want to be part they should come with showing as themself as leading hand, not just say it, don't have to question it.  Even during the holidays you must enchant your holiday and water and bloom. Volunteer , go to local church, don't have to have belief but light where you take it you can listen some things you may agree with some not but you have good heart still have love and light, make some cookies , donate , find some local events and meetups, find some new people, even online reality game mmo,Buy a book or magazine or check one out at library. Plenty of holiday things to do go out and carol or go ice sledding make snow fort.   Make a routine whatever that is you want to do. I just don't chase life, allow life to flow as you center yourself with it.  Get the decoration out for the holiday and celebrate how you want to put some cards up even if they are old or new. Make your own Write lovely cards to self put around the house , listen to lovely holidays, something that is close to your heart. Sing to yourself and dance around as you decorate your holiday, put some bright lights up , Make a list of show's some romance period shows. Be the occasion, have your best out, dress up daily , keep your health the way you want to sculpt it , take care of your skin and body , healthy meal , nice walk or even biking. Call up some friends or family or just talk to your people who live next door. Just try to make some new friends but take your time till trust is built, even that is companionship, no touching just enjoy each other's company sometimes may turn into more. Curl your hair , have night time sayings , write down 6 things like to change , wake up at sunrise, do some tai chi , Do some beauty of your nails. Try a game on the side, go out, buy yourself something  lavish, be the seduction of your life, let people look, let them think. Try a class online , make your end of the year into a new year for yourself.  I been biking every day I got myself Pilates board on temu good deal and got color light  massager.

Other things :
Make something hand made , Paint a picture , Invite people next door for some tea , make a to do list 25 days til the holiday. Get some fortune cookies open one daily make your spirit rise. Egg nog seems to all way's hit the spot little glass really changes the mode. Watch free movies on the tube of the holiday's or some holiday countdown music.


A moment for joy ,

Your getting better all the time.
Life has it's challenges , but whatever difficultly comes your way and bring with its change to discover strength you didn't realize you had , to spark your creativity , to developed new confidence - and become even more capable were you were before. Make a holiday advent put some sweets and a note of the 25 days of you merry life. Admire yourself say lovely things to yourself wake with cup of coffee and tea make the day count.

You Deserve good things.

Supersize your joy!
There is a instant. Calorie-free way to boost happiness : Positive thinking! Look the best in yourself , in others and in each day. Ir's there! Drink it beauty. Ir's all around you! Count your great qualities and your blessings there are many. Life is good. Indulge!

7 day's of inspiration. Take one day and feel great all week.
Day 1
You deserve recognition and admiration.
Day 2
Sprinkle a little magic into your day and someone else's Smile.

Day 3
A dream is best the best destination there is.

Day 4
Take a chance on yourself. Your Worth it!

Day 5
You mean so much to so many.

Day 6
The biggest part of achieving is believing!

Day 7
The world is filled with great people. People like you!

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Dec 29, 2024

With new year do your best to focus on self make a good routine keep going.

Awholeneworld​(sub female) • Dec 29, 2024

I think loneliness is inevitable for all from time to time. Are you in a current D/s dynamic? Are you getting enough attention from D type if you are? Or are they already giving you as much as their life allows? Keeping busy helps me, having a routine. Managing expectations. Fitness, endorphins, swimming, connecting with others in some way. I'm in a long distance dynamic and I HATE waiting when he is busy, it's okay if I am also busy lol but have only been able to see him 2 times in person and night times are hard because I am obsessed and crave him. Always. Sigh.

DigitalLupine​(sub male) • Dec 30, 2024

Loneliness is inevitable. I know of a kind of hollowness from not being a sub for someone that you have that relationship with. I always suggest ASMR or something that can help scratch the itch. I've got a few emergency pup/GFE/BFE/NRE (Girlfriend Experience, Boyfriend Experience or Nonbindary Experience) ASMR's saved for this exact scenario!

Cello Trance{for You} • Dec 30, 2024

Loneliness I think is caused when we are missing someone. It can be an actual person, or a memory and I agree it can be very painful.
In my experience, There’s not much I can do about it except experience it. Loneliness is a lot different than being alone.

I enjoy being alone. I enjoy those times of quietness and solitude, prayer, and meditation. I am usually a very social person and I need those times to recharge.

I am blessed enough to have a property that the backyard is beginning of a long woods. One of my favorite things to do is to sit on my deck and look out into the woods. I can do that for a long period of time And just pray and meditate.

I’m sorry that you are feeling alone. It’s a very difficult emotion to deal with.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 3, 2025

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