Where to start?

Where to start?

Foxingfox​(dom male) • Jan 12, 2025

My girlfriend and I are part of the BDSM lifestyle. Although I’m new to it and experimental I’m trying to learn more from more experienced people. All welcome to help me on this lifestyle

CottageGardenGal​(masochist female) • Jan 12, 2025

Good insight The Cage Magazine is on the right side there is events also podcasting.
Skim through the forum blogs and chatroom you can also ask people in there.
You can also message someone get to know them as well make a few friends.

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JenX • Jan 12, 2025

Welcome to The Cage!

As you may have discovered, this lifestyle is subject to region, culture, generation, and etc. ideologies; within which is a ton of nuance. LOL

You and your partner might consider keeping a joint BDSM journal for play notes and reflection.
This can better direct y'all on your path in the lifestyle, and prevent unnecessary overload of the vast information online.

Oh! A couple's mentor can be a good thing. Just be discerning when you vet. (Asking for money, gifts, tributes, or sex is a mentor Red Flag.)


Cheers!

Jen

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 13, 2025

Read, watch, play. Find the stuff you like, know the stuff you don't like, practice the stuff you love.

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Jan 13, 2025

Welcome to the cage. A good place to start is find a kink list (negotiation check list) both fill one out. Taking care to being truthful in what YOU want, not what you think your partner wants/needs/desire (can't find a list just ask). What areas do you cross over and intersect, share? That middle ground is a great place to start your research and learning. It's also a great place to establish play/scenes.

CottageGardenGal​(masochist female) • Jan 13, 2025

What they said.
list
https://www.theduchy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/BDSM-Experience-and-Curiosity-Checklist-v2-Printable-TheDuchy.pdf
https://www.scribd.com/document/473570111/List-of-BDSM-activities-doc

Enjoy the erotica , romance , dark passion
Enjoy the erotica , romance , dark passion with pain of finery but has to have a feeling , mentally , physically , pure growth , respect and soul feeling. But if I am going to share with yin yang balance , balance with feminine with masculine by evolving together. Wake it up have to be able to light the fire. Love is rare, real is rare, so reserved . Leave to the imagination why it's called art because art can not be touched by all only by one who respects it and aligned crossed hearts. Treat thy life with value as art in return as well. Good side and sultry side but its mysterious but they can look but not touch only one gets it all the madness of love.

Date each other every day like you first met ride or die , Play to stay together , And play like you are two child soul at heart with laughter , The imagination with romance and passion create your art with it , Invest in erotica and read it , Watch erotica with sultry wonder your world and share it with your one.

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Something so imitate about handmade stuff , handmade bread , handmade presents , hand written letters , in a general intimacy and tenderness are stored in hands , in holding hands and playing with each other's fingers , warming each other's hands.

Passion take leading hand to lead the way. Feed my soul , arouse my mind , channel the connection , emotionally invested on soul level spark with growth. takes someone very special to wake it up what comes to the heart.

Just like flowers require water to keep them beautiful. People require love , honesty , respect , trust , passion energy to keep them beautiful too.Once we give that , then we just may find that the god and goddess we been looking for has been right in front of you us all along.

Dance , Sing , read , to each other , breathe together - communicate. Don't count on sex to be the door to intimacy. It's the other way around first to develop intimacy skills . Then make love to enjoy them.We all things have a story. And no matter how much work you've done on yourself. We all snap back together. So be easy on yourself. Growth is a dance. Not a light switch.Some just want good company, a person to vibe with , converse with and laugh without in a rush. Start off simple , and let the rest find itself.

CottageGardenGal​(masochist female) • Jan 13, 2025

Primal like animal that ready to seek its prey . Soft Whispers of naughty mind fucking and pulled hair,  The eyes turned back of hypotheses it has taken you on the edge,  Keeping the energy going through each other with energy and holding hands looking through each other eyes.  A spider chain can be an easy starter in a closet or make a frame to make it temporary.  You can make a frame using stuff from a hardware store using round hooks to attach to chains and cuffs and using your mind with intuition visionary and imagination to create your magic the key to everything.  taking of clothes slowly walking in sexy way as enter room , Drink little clear wine and dim the lights. Write down your erotic find things you like to wear and put some stuff in your room of roses and sex pumped up. Red is a very sexy color cum fuck heels or short ones make a man beg even if he is dominant he will worship your body fuck you crazy.  High thigh stockings go all the way up under the butt garter belt has more belts around it very sexy and pleasing to the eye making the ass look nice.  A small belt corset is nice to add. Men look good in sheer mesh and suit drop to your knees to faint. A chain necklace that you can pull on like a collar , Nipple open bra push ups. Touching the person on the outside of clothes of their parts using the mouth slowly works the way in and can be the starter of sex. Feathers to massage all over the body with them bound and restrained. Have them kneel for you naked while you are a little dressed up and press your body against them against the bed and breathe in the ear tell them you are mine let them drip and beg for more.  Your sub nips need a little suction before play and the kitty cat needs suction and teasing get them going with clamps and little electo but not enough to hurt. Your sub learning must suck the balls and lick the bun hole let the beg to suck your cock.  A dildo with pearls that vibrate, A crop that has electro, A clear paddle, Invest in a hood if you want to go a little harder but slow at first til they beg , And gags well to find the right size for your sub mouth, Make sure the hood they still talk and see but have soft gag in mouth, Aftercare is always good at the end ,  Agree on things before so anything, Practice safe sane consent and safe words , You can still be ravished but still have signs if needs to stop with fingers signs or shake head ,  A morning ritual of romance your life be sexy for you together and exercise together , do tai chi, tantra balance your day with peace and recharge your body and bring the ying and yang of love together. There will be a maddess day but you both must stick together work it glue it.Invest things vibrate your bed and life. Time and place for all things still live in your reality have fun.