age gaps

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Jan 28, 2025

His girlfriend is 24 she looks a bit late 39 to early 43ish some photo's not saying it's bad but she looks very attractive and intelligent. In some photos, she looks younger in some photos. Not me to say but whatever makes them happy. Young seem to want to look older and older just want to look good for their age. But maybe they are meant to be.

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Miki • Jan 29, 2025

One can't really use public support of Belichick's relationship as a fair metric regarding how "society" views a 72 year old man with a 24 year old girlfriend because he has the mantle --(deserved or not-- not a useful commentary for the purposes of this thread) )-- of being "The Greatest NFL Head Coach of All Time" so he'll get more of a pass than a run-of-the-mill old fart prancing around with a cutie-pie young enough to be his granddaughter.
Modern times not withstanding, such a gent is still whispered about as a "dirty old man".

But hell, if ol' Billy can still swing his club, party on.

And on the flip side--- the studly young gardener planting seeds in the 50+ "Lady of the Manor", while also less taboo than it once was, a cougar is still a cougar in many circles.

But in both scenarios, if the junior partner in an erotic and/or emotional endeavor is over 18, and both are aware of the true nature of the relationship, then if it feels good, do it!

All head-shakers can go climb a tree.

Heart of Persephone​(sub female)​{owned} • Jan 29, 2025

I personally don't have an issue to age gaps, but there are caveats to this in my opinion. young teen should never ever, ever be with someone in their 20's EVER! There is too much going on in the brains growth going on in the teens to mid-20s.

I was in am age gap marriage for 20 plus years, I was 22, he was 38 when we met and married, also let it be known I did not know him or who he was prior to 22 years old.. Was I ready to be married? Probably not, no lets face it-no I was not, I thought I was, but I was not. Did the age gap cause the end of our marriage, I don't believe so, it was other factors, I want to say He and I are friends and we have 5 wonderful kids and 2 awesome grand kids.

Looking back I can see how immature I was, (but I thought i was mature for my age. Don't we all think that?). Now being 49 if I were to be in an age gap relationship equal to what I was in at 22, the person would be in their upper 60's!No one would even question it. I also am more mature, and capable of being in a mature relationship, because I'm an old one now LOL.

These gaps with an older male and much younger female have been around for generations, I do not believe that they are more accepted by the younger gens, because they give the side -eye when finding out the age gaps in their great grand parents. But when wealth is added to the mix, there tends to be a "look the other way" attitude. Another issue with gap relationships is when the elder one has known the younger since they were a child, then start getting closer as the younger gets to age of consent, I side eye that, as an "Ick Factor".

There are age gaps out there where neither person is super elite wealthy, and not much is said, they just live their lives. You can find your other half with a person your exact same age , or a few years apart, just as much as you can with someone 20+ years older. You just might not have enough time to be together. But you are never guaranteed a long long life.

So in my conclusion, Think before you enter an age gap relationship and ask yourself if this was my daughter, would i want them at 18-25 to be dating a man in their 50's?

sorry if I rambled, my day is drawing to an end.

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Jan 29, 2025

I mean I don't know what I would do with a 24 year old, at my age

It makes me think about Captain America's line about wanting someone with matching life experience when talking with Black Widow.

I find about 45 or so my floor.

Aradia Nightshade​(kinky female) • Jan 29, 2025

As long as both parties are honest about their intentions and expectations, I don't think an age gap is a problem. Note that if I'm using "Dom" for the purposes of this post, I'm referring to any dominant, not just a male. The following isn't a "here's how it is" - it's just me explaining my thoughts and/or understanding of the topic.

A younger man being with an older woman might have to be okay with not having children, for example, if the older woman is past the childbearing age. This might seem okay for the young man, until he starts getting older. He may or may not change his mind.

An older man can still father children, but he may not want the responsibility of having a child. The younger woman may not want a child, but just like with the younger men, this could change as she gets older.

Then there is the age gaps between couples who are LGBTQ2S+. These couples also have similar challenges, except possibly in different ways. For example, if they can't biologically have a child together they may opt for adoption or surrogacy.

These relationships often don't work out for long term because eventually the different life stages catch up to the couple. They may want different things, and it becomes apparent that they cannot continue together as a couple.

In the BDSM context, the age gap between Dom and sub is common - the dom is typically older. Subs may be attracted to an older dom because of their perception that they have more experience and could better lead them/dominate them. But age doesn't always equal experience - it depends on how long the Dom has been in the BDSM lifestyle.

I think it is a mistake to automatically assume that an older Dom has more experience and/or skill. But the age gap is seen a lot, and it's typically the top that is older. That does not mean there aren't any couples where the opposite is true.

The concerns about age gaps are identical to those in the vanilla lifestyle, except for the extra layer in BDSM involving the kink and power exchange. Many subs feel more comfortable submitting to an older Dom because of their perception that older is wiser.

Those are my thoughts on age gaps. I think that these relationships don't usually last, but that both parties can learn something from the relationship and possibly even part ways as friends because of their profound understanding of their situation. I know there are bitter break-ups, but hopefully two parties can find a way to be thankful for the time they did spend together before their paths split.

It's worth noting that age gaps in other peoples' relationship is none of my business. And it's nobody's business except for the two parties involved. The exception being if there is abuse happening.

Babybunz • Jan 31, 2025

I, myself, have always found older men more attractive than guys around my age or younger. The older men seem to know more about what they want or what they are into/need in their lives.
The education I can receive from him is always a plus. They know more because they have been around more. Most of the time they know more in bed too.

My ex was 21+ years older than me and he was mistaken for my grandfather once when we were out clothes shopping. (She could have just been trying to be rude but who knows).

chaoscutie​(sub female) • Feb 1, 2025

As a woman that was preyed on as soon as I turned 18, I have some mixed feelings about this. Large age gaps are totally fine, but if the younger one in the relationship is borderline too young, it gives me a weird feeling.

Older Gentleman​(dom male) • Feb 1, 2025

For me, knowing what age is difficult, at 57, there is a line, but knowing where it is can be difficult. My daughter is 33, so I have this unwritten rule about anyone younger than 36 for now. But what if I find a 29-year-old who is perfect? I just don't know I will probably meet someone who is in their 50s, so no worries, lol.

DrknessNC​(dom male) • Aug 11, 2025

The critics can kick sand.

I am 54 and my last was 19 when I found her and mentored and enjoyed her over 4 years of college.

If it pisses of the vanillas, I don't care. They don't offer anything that will make my life better.

I have worked hard for what I have and spent many years focused on school, work, career.

I am the 6ft4 and six figures (for the last 20 years). I will flirt with and fuck any adult I want..

Can I be happy with someone closer to my age? Sure, if she wants for my happiness and prosperity ** on my terms **.

Unfortunately, most just brings bills and bastards from past comitments. The bills and bastards group are usually the loudest that I should only date them but they repulse me. How can you respect or date a woman who was having her fun while you built a foundation and shows up thinking she deserves it as well?

Can I love a single mother? Sure, if at a reasonable point she gives me legal and moral authority and never utters "not yours" once I have made comitments.

Kelpi • Aug 11, 2025

Everytime I get into a relationship it seems she gets younger and younger. I see it as younger women knows what they want but because of the way men are treated now they no longer looking to become what subs/slaves are needing. Women are told they need to be powerful independent and put men in their place. Now the sub/slave are turning to older men because ....... well we don't give a damn what others think or what they think we should be. We are older and we know what we want and we know how to treat a sub like a sub. We will not be told how to act how to talk or how to treat a woman who needs to know that her place is where I tell her it is. A far as the May/December thing going on well the old man found a young woman willing to do what he wants for what she will get when he dies. There is nothing wrong with that. As my ex once said "hooker or wife they both get paid for putting out".

Personally I enjoy being a dirty old man.