How to break the chain ?

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 21, 2025

Sound sound advice.
I just may do this. I know they are in the shadows … I’ve seen them watch.
I just need to be open and choose wisely.
Great words dear Sir. I thank you

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Feb 21, 2025

Detach yourself from the situation, wish everyone well, and maintain your peace. Life goes on, and it's important to prioritize your happiness. Their actions are on them; they need to learn and grow for themselves, not for you.

A woman is a goddess even when she is in a submissive role. The dominant partner, as the king, must be willing to embrace her submission because there is both darkness and light in the concept of yin and yang. This dynamic requires deep respect, as both partners serve each other with pleasure and shared desires. Together, they create a sense of oneness and unity, allowing the feminine and masculine energies to evolve towards inner wholeness.

You have your happiness and memories, but some things change over time, and they fade away to allow for rebirth. Life is an experience, and you must make choices to please yourself and become better for yourself. Remember, you, as a Goddess in a sub/slave dynamic, deserve the best in this life.

You will need alone time to nourish your essence, setting boundaries for your protection and peace, and ensuring that you surround yourself with those who respect you in return. Let others keep what they have; you are free to focus on yourself now.

As your energy shifts and changes, it may be necessary to let go of certain people, but this will open the door to new beginnings. You don't need to look back; instead, look forward to a new life in the present.

Even when you leave, many good Dominants help their submissive move on and support them in their education and personal growth. However, it’s essential to find resources to ensure your life is stable and fulfilling. Value your essence and what you bring to the table. A submissive or slave is a treasure and deserves care, love, and to be treated well. They should have access to the best medical care and a stable, peaceful place to call home.

In the same way, the old guard dynamic emphasizes that one must assess the energy in the relationship. You are a human being, a goddess, and a woman who creates life in this world. It takes a responsible leading hand to understand the depth of commitment when both partners agree to be exclusive; this is akin to marriage. If that contract is broken, it can lead to heartache and broken feelings, but time and self-partnership can heal those wounds.

There is a time and place for everything, but women should keep their heads held high and speak up. You can choose more than one role, and even a submissive or slave dynamic can be private. It’s important to be with someone who respects and honors you, treating you not as lesser but as the highest form of love.

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 21, 2025

Virtual hugs to you thank you thank you

You pegged something “ respect”
I was not given the same respect I gave.

Used to be…12 years worth. It was stunning
But time stop pining for “ what was”
And embrace “ what is”

Your a godsend for the reminder

Respectfully

PandaGirl​(sub female) • Feb 22, 2025

Nothing that I can say that you haven’t already said, or has been said to you by others. Just lending my support as you make this transition in your life.

VictrixGremTenebris​(sadist female) • Feb 22, 2025

Hone in on your sense of self worth. We all need it, regardless of which side of the slash. Without it, we’re easier to abuse. He betrayed your trust and abused your dynamic through his disrespect. But fortunately, YOU have the power to choose. Submission is a choice. Self respect is a choice. My advice is to practice flexing your self respect muscle by setting some firm boundaries that reflect what’s important to you (like honesty) and be very methodical going forward who you give power.

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 23, 2025

Thank you Ma’am
I’ve actually been learning a lot being here in only a few shorts days.
It’s funny I’m very experienced and at the same time. I feel like I’m a neophyte.
Chum in the water. Lol
And thank you for your time

Old School protocol

MasterDomDok​(sadist male)​{you?} • Feb 23, 2025

Welcum.

Be careful with that initial contact of your shadow Dom. While in your regular BDSM party, ask a host for an invitation, so that meeting can be supervised, if it needs to. If the host knows well the shadow Dom, listen to how the host describes him. By his actions will you know the truth.

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Feb 23, 2025

One thing from reading all this, is the importance of community in BDSM. When there's blood in the water, sharks circle. It would be devastating for you on your own it seems to me. You can't trust everyone's advice when you're vulnerable. Hopefully, there's a couple of people in your community who know you well whom you can trust. I hope you can lean on them and find the space you need to heal.