Submissive Male

Submissive Male

SubbieNew​(sub male) • Mar 18, 2025

6 weeks ago my wife and I started a FLR. She put me in a cock cage. Daily I honor my Goddess by serving her in any way she desires. I do all of the cleaning, Laundry, most of the cooking, foot massages daily and multiple O's for her each night. If I serve her well, once a week I am allowed out of the cage to have intercourse with her and then clean up my mess. I absolutely love this new chapter in our lives. I just wish she would embrace the humiliation part for me that I have asked for. Any advice?

pioneer man​(sub male) • Mar 18, 2025

Sounds like you have a great thing going. It's only been 6 weeks, so you need to allow time to really get your dynamic worked out.

I have been a 24/7 live-in Femdom sub for a few years (married to my Dom) and we're stil learning. There are many things that will change as you progess through your relationship, just as in a vanilla one. Always be willing (both of you) to listen to each others ideas and concerns.

In fact, tonight we are taking part in an online workshop entitled, "Intro to Master/Slave Relatinships". At the end of this month, we will be listening to 21 different speakers at an online Dom/sub summit. Just got our tickets today. We're always looking for ways to enhance our lifestyle.

Looking at what you do to serve her, it's a little different from ours, but some of it is the same. My Dom has come up with some things I do that is fun for us - some of them done in public.

SubbieNew​(sub male) • Mar 18, 2025

What are some of the public ones. I have been trying to get her to do that more.

pioneer man​(sub male) • Mar 18, 2025

Point #1 - Always remember, "Nothing is One Size Fits All". We experiment with different things, some work for us and some don't.

One thing she did years ago, was one day she said. " I think I would like you naked all the time. So at home or in hotel rooms, I am naked 24/7 no matter what I'm doing. I am NEVER naked in public, when working or sitting outside, or if we have visitors. It's important to always be respectful of those not in our lifestyle.

Then she decided to extend that into our public life. She picked out items from adult stores for me to wear in public - underwear (sometimes I'm not allowed to wear any), a vibrating cock ring (she has the remote control), nipple clamps, etc. I wear what she chooses that day to run erands, go grocery shopping, or whatever we are doing. Just take her shopping and let her imagination go wild.

We get ideas from the online D/s group we belong to and for many years we atended an Erotic Festival in the area that we lived before retiring here.

SubbieNew​(sub male) • Mar 18, 2025

Thank you for sharing. We are very new to this. I am very open minded and have wanted something like this for a long time. She has never thought about this before so it is alot of her learning and getting comfortable with all of it. I am always in a cage and when in public I always let her lead and I have worn a butt plug that she has a remote for. She is very conservative where I am more open and really don't care what people think. I actually like to see reactions from people.
We have a big LGBTQ club here and I want us to dress up have her take me down there on a collar and leash to dance all night.

Madeline Lavigne​(dom female) • Mar 19, 2025

So interesting!! I am a lifestyle domme with a live in boy slave who is nude 24/7!! I'd love to talk!

dollMaker​(dom male) • Mar 19, 2025

You will need a kink friendly, kink space to do that in, many LGBTQ+ spaces are vanilla, not kink friendly - the two do not necessarily go hand in hand. You would need to find out if the club you mention is kink friendly, a kink space.

SkyeWriter​(dom female) • Mar 22, 2025

I concur that everyone in this kind of relationship needs time to adjust, process, and learn. I would also note (kindly) that just because you want a particular thing doesn't mean that a Domme is going to want to or feel able to provide it. Humiliation is an advanced skill, unless you happen to have an appreciation for it as part of your personality, and it can be a struggle to humiliate someone if it's just not part of your makeup. I've been with my current submissive for 4 years and I'm pretty sure he'd enjoy more humiliation, but even with 20 years in the kink community I'm just starting to find my own groove and style with respect to humiliation. Frankly, I'm never going to be the Domme who has that as a primary focus because I don't necessarily think it's good for anyone to want that kind of treatment all the time.

As the two of you become more comfortable with what you're already implementing, there will absolutely be time for further discussion and learning and you'll find it very likely that both of you will change in how you feel about what you're doing. It's good to keep open communication and, at the same time, be respectful of each other's process.

Very good luck to you