In a polyamorous relationship
Smart, funny, warm, engaging. A great listener and a fine conversationalist. A writer of erotica, a deep thinker, a person of thought-out beliefs. Generally laid-back and committed to civility--until you give me reason to be otherwise. Happily married for a very long time, happily kinky, happily polyamorous. Leave your assumptions at the door if you want to get to know me, because I'll blow them all right out of the water.
There are many aspects of BDSM that interest me, the first and foremost of which is D/s. I identify as a Domme-leaning switch. I have been in the community for just over 15 years and began as a submissive. I have been owned by four different men who truly deserved the title of Master. Each served as a role model, a teacher, a friend, and a lover. In some cases, our time together was short, in others we were together for years. My last Master, who owned me for six years, encouraged me to learn and grow and explore and it was during that time that I began to hone my own skills as a Dominant. Although I probably spend more time in that role now, I do enjoy submitting to the right Dominant or fellow switch--and I know exactly who is right for me and who is not.
That's for a time when we are actually negotiating play. I definitely have limits and I absolutely expect them to be respected. Whether I am in the submissive role or the Dominant role with you, failure to respect and properly care for me will end badly for you. I'm no one's fool, nor am I your doormat or abuse doll.
COVID has been tough on my poly relationships and there are times when I do not feel like socializing. Please respect that. If you write to me, I will answer you, but it may not be immediately. I take care of a house for my family, I am studying for my career, and I have many interests that I try to make time for.