Multiple bad experiences

SkyeWriter​(dom female) • Mar 22, 2025

I am sorry this happened to you...but repeat after me:

We do not give money to anyone in return for sexual/kinky activity. EVER.

Unless you have a kink around being forced to give your money away (findom), you never ever pay to play. The one exception would be if you were inclined to see a pro-Domme, and pro-Dommes do not offer sexual services--only kinky ones. Good pro-Dommes are quite expensive and the legitimate ones are happy to allow themselves to be vetted and will tell you upfront what they charge and what services they do and do not provide.

Aside from that, do not ever give someone money for any reason. I have a submissive who has been a partner for over 4 years, and another partner I've been with for almost 15 years and I would not take a penny from either of them under any circumstances, nor would I give either of them money.

Good luck in your search.

KiNKProvidence​(dom female) • Mar 22, 2025

Tribute is normal for Pro Tops. However, this is entirely a scam and I’m sorry this happened to you. As others have mentioned most won’t take payment until you meet person. I have seen subs needing to pay a fee for contract/negotiation because Pros do get ripped off as well. At these prices before ever getting to scene or meet though, this is a scam. Again, so sorry this happened to you.

House Talion​(dom male) • Mar 22, 2025

When I had a slave I paid for everything needed by us, she paid for her personal needs.

My owned sub pays for nothing unless she wants something specific I don't presently have or am unable to make.

During all training and educational exercises i clearly Kay out anlisy of everything that could be used as well as everything I have on hand and it's their responsibility to buy anything they want involved which is then theirs to keep as it is not my intention to own them during.

I don't mind if my partners pay for things, but as I beleive I was raised the right way I do as I can to provide.

Miki​(masochist female) • Mar 22, 2025

***The O P flew the coop quite a while ago but it's a useful topic for others***

This is a great post and completely reasonable and a great way to look at your dynamics... "Within reason" goes without saying of course related to Line 2 of your post. Hypothetically if I were a slave in the "House of Talion" my inner and oft irrepressible inner smart ass would say "I want a Lamborghini and I know you can't whip one up in the garage..." But that's just me being, well, my usual smart ass self.

However, yours is within your established dynamic. In the original post, written almost a year ago, was relating to creatures he found Online charging him for shit like "sub kits" and other stuff that falls within the domain of scammers.

Otherwise if the responding "domme" wanted him to have a "sub kit" and whatever crap that might come along with one, she would give him a list of things he can go out and buy for himself from any big boy toy store--- Y'know, the ones out in the middle of Deer's Dick, Idaho, with shades that are perpetually down.

Seems silly to have those cool little toy stores so hidden away... whenever I get new or replacement toys I don't care who sees me doing that kind of shopping. Alas, That's Just Me.