► gentledom wrote:
Hi folks,
As my screen name implies I'm a dom who is into the interaction of minds rather than pain and humiliation. I see BDSM as a way of enhancing the sexual experience rather than a way of asserting authority.
What I'm trying to do is liberate through bondage, if that doesn't sound too strange. When a sub gives up control to me they also give up anxiety and worry, because they have no decisions left to make. Once a sub is in restraint I can say "Because you can do nothing, you can do nothing wrong. Let yourself go, struggle or lie still. Relax or try to scream through the gag. It is all one."
From that a sub can learn trust, and from there go on to more exciting forms of submission and play, scenes where she can work out her fantasies, or accept surprises I can contrive for her. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be sold as a slave, or be a princess who is captured in battle?
Surprise me, and I will make you very happy.
Robert
I've had a few Dom in my life that wanted to start by ways that seemed to be jumping a few steps ahead rather than starting in a different more controlling way than by way of Fear. I've always been submissive with a man or I received and he gave which to me made me a bottom and him a top. Recently I have tied a few bottom to the bed so to stop them from controlling and pulling away to cum. I explain to them my tieing them to the bed is not to hurt or inflict pain or cause a wound but to get close and stopping much like a cat does with a mouse but mine is to get then to heightened state of pleasure and trust. So far your the first Dom I have agreed with and it would be a pleasure and honor to have you for a Dom. Audrey