Sex vs lust vs love

Sex vs lust vs love

angelaffliction​(sub female) • May 30, 2025

What is it your looking for? How do you keep the spark alive? I’m sure there’s more people out there like me but I’d like others opinions, so you think there is a way to recreate that spark you know the one where they touch you even in a platonic way and you’re instantly willing to do anything or does it just fade out over time? Don’t get me wrong the sex is good, sometimes it’s really good, other time it’s good but unsatisfactory. Is it normal? Or is it maybe just me and my emotions getting in the way of being to reconnect with this person. I miss the lustful feeling.

Kelpi • May 30, 2025

Coming from an old man I loved to hear my sub cum. I knew I was going to finish one way or the other but knowing a womans body like I do I found it not an easy task to get her off. You have to take the time to find out just where her spots are and how to get that switch to flick on. Your right sex is so good but when you can make her hit the wall and climb over it screaming.

You can't do it every time but when you do it when you can and put all your feelings and the love you have into it then you get as much out of it that she does. Now if sex is all you have or if it is the main thing in your relationship then you have a problem. Sex is super but it should be the desert to your relationship. My wife and I use to read across from each other. I loved looking over my book and watching her. The best part was when she caught me looking and turned red. Life is like a buffet. You have to know what each other likes and now and then try something new. Find out what you like keep going back to it but don't make it the main course ever time. I did do one thing they all loved. I love giving a massage. I learned how to transfer my energy through my hands and then work out those spots they needed work on. Yea it took years but once you start you get to know their body in ways you never knew it is worth it. If you truly want someone then don't make short term plans. Play the long game and always remember why you want and love them.

itsmella​(sub female) • May 31, 2025

sex with love and lust

LatexHer​(dom male) • May 31, 2025

I've been married multiple times, and will happily say that "I've enjoyed the dance I shared with each one!"
Through it all, I've enjoyed several relationships during the years between divorces, and with one wife, we both enjoyed the women we played with together.
LUST = looking at a woman, what she wears, how she uses her body, her intellect, and how she communicates.
Sometimes we men have a lust for gratification that can interfere with good sense.
Now that I'm an older man ( Yes, finally got there), I look at women differently than I did when I was 20/30/40.
Today. I know that time does change things, and not just our bodies. I am much more tolerant about looks, weight, style, and wrinkles. One thing that still excites me is how most women enjoy having sex, playing games, fetishes, and having the good sense to help us older men do things that we used to do all night. Just because your tits are not as frim or have sagged a bit, and we have to work to warm the pan before its fit to fuck, the warmth you get lying in bed together, or having the afterglow, is worth all the time it takes.
I've driven 300+ miles to meet with a gal I met online after exchanging words, photos, and talking on the phone. I've had ladies drive to meet with me for dinner, with some staying for the weekend or longer. When you get older, well situated, secure in who you are, and have become, children, finances, and time no longer interfere with relationships - unless you allow it to!

Literate Lycan​(dom male) • May 31, 2025

It's quite honestly a balancing act. A delicate act. If you wrap your love with a focus on allowing your lust to simmer for the one you are with, the sex will only get better. But you have to allow yourself the freedom to love with unabashed lust (which means the right partner). And constant communication on all things, to include the lusty parts. Many couples after they've been together for a while stop paying attention to those interesting aspects that sparked their imagination.

Don't go too far one way so that it becomes commonplace but also don't stay too far away that you forget how it feels.

One must always prime the pump so to speak. Daily rituals indicating attraction but not so much that your partner or you feel it's become a pattern or thing. It must be heartfelt, so let your heart feel it.

And never let go of the reason you fell for the person to begin with.

IowaDom​(dom male) • May 31, 2025

Sex without emotion is just scratching an itch, and while it may satisfy that itchy feeling for a bit, it will not do much to fill the "voids" that most of us seek to fill. Not saying scratching it is a bad thing, just not a long term fix As dynamics deepen, the initial fascination and thrill of the moment exentually, and slowly gets replaced with sharing something so deep, it is beyond comparison, and binds two into one, closer and closer over time.

Miki • Jun 1, 2025

I'm cool with speaking from the apparently empty seats of the minority because I don't give a wet fart what might be said or thought about me on this subject. . I thoroughly enjoyed being an object, thoroughly enjoyed the pleasure my body gave when properly stimulated and now that I stepped away from "the scene" I'm content where I'm at. Zero regrets, Zero "What ifs".

And guess what? There's not a damned thing wrong with that.

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So:

Lust? Of course. "I like how you look at me. It's why I wear what I wear."

Sex? "Your place or mine? Or how about right here in a quieter corner of this club."

Love? No, not cut out for that, I never was. I was always the type who loves to play and then go away. I am a woman who enjoys peaceful solitude.
I am reclusive but not a recluse. Being romantically involved with another would take that away.

IowaDom​(dom male) • Jun 1, 2025

Of course there isn't Miki, we each march to the drum we choose, one is certainly no better or worse than another, as in the end, whatever needs we wanted fulfilled hopefully got fulfilled

Miki • Jun 2, 2025

Appreciated. That was not necessarily directed at any other members, more like why I posted that. Rather it was why I feel OK saying so.

New slut owner​(dom male) • Jun 23, 2025

Well sex is great. I struggle to seperate sex from love, lust and in fact kink.

When I lust her, it is because she turns me on so much, always. So, sometimes we make love and sometimes we have sex just for the sake of sexual gratification. Often when we explore our kinky side, that is a lead on from desire, lust and hornyness, Different type of sex I suppose, but always sex and always orgasms.
Sometimes making love, which is very tender and loving, is required in a relationship. In my opinion, it is the basis of the trust for our kink side.