The narcissist

ewieya​(kinky female)​{Myself} • Aug 8, 2025

Shaming someone does not empower them!

In my experiences, some people will flat out deny the pain or suffering of another human being because it makes them uncomfortable to see someone be as vulnerable as they themselves would never like to be.

@Littlebua - so many things can make you a target. Please don't be afraid to seek support! Vulnerability, in the right spaces and with the right people can do amazing things for your soul!

Bishop • Aug 8, 2025

Can I like this more than once. Good job for you!!! You go, girl!!!

SweetHolly​(sub female) • Aug 8, 2025

Bishop
I agree with you.
You have to heal and do the self work and growth. I have been blindsided by many; however, I am better at recognizing the red flags and trusting myself. I too have had to relearn many things during my recovery.

Bishop • Aug 8, 2025

I know that what I’m going to say is probably going to piss people off and cause a lot of good people to doubt me and distrust everything I say from here on out, but the truth is the truth…I know a lot about narcissism or at least the behaviors because I was someone just like that. I gaslit, lied, manipulated, denied responsibility, played games, used guilt trips, and was generally a douchebag to just get what I wanted. I would use women, I didn’t care if they were married, had a boyfriend, or generally liked me…I didn’t care nor care. I’m 54 years old, that was when I was in my mid 20’s when I hit a brick wall. I say this because I know, all too well, their fucked up games and I also know the damage I caused. I will not make excuses or apologize (I’ve done enough of that years ago), but maybe, just maybe understanding why abusers and narcissist do what they do will bring someone healing…who knows.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Aug 10, 2025

Wow. So many varied responses. Some are actually rather scary to read.

Keeping on topic, I have found Dr. Ramini to be a jewel. She is knowledgeable, well versed in this particular topic and speaks to a wide audience in language even a lay person can understand and apply to their own lives.


Understanding narcissism was huge for me because I didn’t know what I had crashed into. Particularly the difference between a person with diagnosed NPD and people with narcissistic traits. I agree with her about narcissism being the second hand smoke of our time.

Recognizing and staying far away from toxic people who lack empathy and compassion in general is key for me.

I also learned that narcissistic people don’t do well with authentic folks. I strive for authenticity.

In my humble opinion and in my personal life, the only way to deal with narcissistic people and toxic people in general is No Contact. I don’t play with fire. I’ve already been burned.

Personal experience. Currently on the run.