Slavery in bdsm

Slavery in bdsm

beachflyer • Sep 1, 2025

Hello to all
here is a teaser for all to have a long think
I am a Dom, i have been for a good many years but i hear a lot from others who talk about their slaves, but really do we have slaves in a sense i do, but actually i have a lovely women who enjoys and who would quite happily submit 24/7 if she could to serving me, i don't regard her as my slave but as my sub, good subs are very hard to find and should be loved, cared for and held high
i sometimes tease her by calling her my precious slave but i do respect her and i would never treat her as a slave, i have read somewhere on this site where a dom refers to {gor} this i believe is a book based on fantasy, yes it's great to escape and play but i believe in the bdsm lifestyle which keeps me level headed and still i learn from you guys
but i want to know what your thoughts are... do you regard your subs as slaves to do whatever you want or fantasised about or do you have more respect for them and like me treat them as your special submissive's,
Now to some of you i may sound weak, I'm anything but. I'm strong willed and i do have a softer side which comes through as the years have pass by.
so, to those of you who have taken the time to read this. Let me know what you think i would very much appreciate your thoughts ....this is open to subs and Doms

Heart of Persephone​(sub female)​{owned} • Sep 1, 2025

I strive to be at slave level. to have such a strong bond, where he knows exactly how I react, need and desire. There is so much "negotiations" before anything is implemented. He just doesn't do what ever he wants to her ( I use He/her as that is what I live in), she still has her safe words and he knows to respect that. To me it is such a deep level of D/s.

Bishop • Sep 1, 2025

I mean no disrespect, but you sound arrogant. Your entire post comes off as only you know “the one twue way” to have a slave. There are many definitions of what a “slave” entails, and how a submissive desires for her Dom to treat her, as long as it meets her needs, it perfectly legit. Although on your profile you say your a “trainer,” let me explain: if one “slave” likes to give up all power and control, even wanting to ask permission to use the bathroom…wouldn’t it be disrespectful of her Dom to not do that? Wouldn’t it be disrespectful to “force” a submissive (slave) to violate her boundaries? To each his and her own. Sometimes, a slave wants her Dom to treat her any way he wants…and that’s ok. I think that high horse you’re riding is missing a few legs. Just my thought.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Sep 12, 2025

In my personal opinion, every D-type is going to treat their sub or slave different according to their own wants, needs, desires, morals and ethics. No two relationships are alike. As long as both parties have communicated, agree and she gives her consent, it isn’t anyone else’s business what they do in their relationship. We don’t have to agree with it. Also, I am unclear as to why a slave would not deserve respect but then I’m tired and maybe I read the original post wrong. If so, carry on.

Curiousmind​(switch female) • Sep 13, 2025

A bit strange view on slavery, or should I say a lack of understanding what slavery means in the power-exchange relationship.
Slavery, in its literal meaning, is involuntary, forced labour.
Slavery in the BDSM lifestyle is a voluntary, enthusiastic surrender of a submissive’s will. It’s the slave’s heart yielding to obey anything their Master asks, out of an established bond built on complete trust, respect and love. The cornerstone, or foundation for such absolute power exchange is a deep knowledge of each other, and a mutual desire to be in a Master/slave relationship.
For slavery to work in a power-exchange relationship, the Master needs to study and learn his slave. He needs to know her intimately, not just on physical level but most importantly on an emotional and mental level, so he doesn’t cause her harm. And this is what sets a Master/slave relationship in the BDSM lifestyle apart from the actual slavery that has existed and still exists in some parts of the world. A true Master knows his slave so intimately that he never asks anything that causes her distress, disappointment, hurt, or anxiety. Anything the Master asks of his slave is ultimately beneficial not just to him as a Master but to his slave as well, because serving a Master for a slave is not just a lifestyle; it’s her life and soul. She can’t imagine her life without her Master; she can’t exist without him. The Master is a source of the slave’s peace and contentment, joy and fulfilment.

The Master/slave relationship is one of the most beautiful and most intimate I’ve ever encountered in my life!