What’s the makeup here?

Okay, I cover a spectrum, too, from nurturing loving sweet daddy to intense (but not brutal) sadist. Right know, though, I'm my grandkids' grandpa. When, and, if, there's another sub in my life, (unless she's hiding next door) I'm on the shelf 'till Halloween

I need what you are...in my life. It's easy to love a woman that serves me at all times, not just in the bedroom. I wanna spoil her for the way she takes care of me. It's not easy to find but I'll keep lookin'.

Outwardly, a vanilla adult male, creeping up on middle age, with a successful career in a white collar job, into the arts, the outdoors, sports and outdoor recreation.

Inwardly, a closeted kinkster, submissive, eager to please, eager to love and be loved, and likes to be used and abused.

And I try to keep up the facade, keep the inward part of me separated from the outward part of me that I show the world.

I haven't really found a grouping helpful because I guess I'm somewhat weird.

I have described myself as a pleasing sub. But then people think I mean pleasure sub, and I don't. It's not just about sexual pleasure, it's about just pleasing my Master however that happens. Make him laugh at a joke or surprise him with a snack or submit to him sexually whenever and however he wants. I think I'm a people pleaser whose brain has kinkified my people pleasing. And I think that's maybe healthier than normal people pleasing because I can't please everyone but if I can please Master that's okay.

I'm wholesome and could sorta fit trad wife except I'm a slob. Lol. I have ADHD and a lot of trauma around cleaning so I'm willing to split chores vanilla style but absolutely not have domestic duties be part of the dynamic, primarily because due to my executive dysfunctions I really, really struggle with them and if I was really, really struggling to please my Master it would be crippling to me.

Totally have a praise kink and a breeding kink. Into objectification but not humiliation or degradation.

Oh and edited to add I'm a masochist but again it's about pleasing. If my Master didn't enjoy inflicting pain I wouldn't want him to, but enduring pain for his pleasure is fucking hot.

I'm a Little who's a Brat and just a tiny bit masochistic. (Very tiny bit) With a desire to learn more and try more things. I'm not a Slave or a Service Sub. Nothing wrong with it, it just doesn't do it for me. The only catch is if you're not mentally stronger then me, I will run right over you. I have to be in an Alpha mindset in my job and other area's of my personal life. So it's harder to find a Dom who I can respect enough to let that side of me go.

I would probably describe myself as an untrained, new but curious sub that is still finding their place in this world.

Im a switch. I fall right in with that. Though its only in a sexual sense, it doesnt move into my day to day.
Mainly bondage. Pain to some degree. Sensory stuff.

I'm an intellectual Brat middle (meaning I don't do practical jokes but stick to verbal sparring and mental gymnastics), a Little, with a smidge of service submissive. I'm also a rope bottom when my schedule cooperates, which it hasn't...for months. 🙄 Oddly, rope space is my Little space. Don't ASK ME WHY cause I have no clue.