What does slavery mean?

FutLug​(dom male) • Oct 29, 2025

Anna Lynn,
Thank you for sharing your perspective so openly and deeply. It really gave me a lot to think about.
Personally, I believe that for a truly fulfilling M/s dynamic, the two “universes”—the slave’s and the Master’s—must converge. It’s not about one erasing the other, but about finding an authentic point of intersection.
So I wonder: in your experience, does day-to-day reality fully align with your inner fantasy? Or do you live a gradual adaptation to his vision? In other words, do you get to truly and fully live out your fantasies, or is there ongoing negotiation between what you crave and what he allows you to be?
And on the emotional side: is it possible, in your view, for a Master who deeply objectifies his slave to still maintain a genuine emotional bond? Or does extreme objectification inevitably exclude affection—or at least transform it into something different from “traditional” love?
These are sincere questions, born out of curiosity and respect for those who live these dynamics with such intensity.
YMMV, of course.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Oct 29, 2025

Futlug,

Honestly, I feel a bit embarrassed continuing this thread since the original poster’s profile has been deleted, which I wasn’t aware of when I first responded to the question. However, because you addressed me in an open forum, I will attempt to answer.

{You asked, "In your experience, does day-to-day reality fully align with your inner fantasy? Or do you live a gradual adaptation to this vision? In other words, do you get to truly and fully live out your fantasies, or is there an ongoing negotiation between what you crave and what he allows you to be?"}

Interestingly enough, I felt I lived most fully as a slave in my first relationship, where we didn’t know about BDSM. This lack of awareness allowed us to be completely authentic with each other, without feeling pressure to conform to specific labels. In fact, I didn’t realize I was a slave until years later. To be perfectly honest, this made my relationships more complicated in some ways.

After discovering BDSM, my relationships became a slow dance of negotiation between Master and slave, creating a strong bond of trust and dependability. We learned each other’s needs and desires over time and felt no rush to reach a conclusion. Some relationships lasted months and some years. I gained a lot of experience in adaptability.

I have not served any Master who tried to change who I am. However, the way I am allowed to express my role in the relationship has varied with each Master I have served. Furthermore, I don’t fantasize about or romanticize my role; I wouldn’t be doing myself justice by doing so. Serving in a slave’s capacity is a profound psychological and physical need that I express when I’m in love with another person.

{You said, “Is it possible, in your view, for a Master who deeply objectifies his slave to still maintain a genuine emotional bond? Or does extreme objectification inevitably exclude affection—or at least transform it into something different from “traditional” love”?}

This question is challenging for me to answer, as I have not personally experienced extreme objectification.

From a purely psychological perspective, the whole purpose of extreme objectification in a relationship is to repress or eliminate the possibility of emotional attachment. This allows a Master to use their slave in ways they might not be able to if a strong emotional bond existed.

From my personal perspective, it ultimately depends on the Master and his emotional capabilities. I would think that living this way from a prolonged period of time would change or repress the love between Master and slave but I can't say from experience. Totally subjective.

A bit long winded but I hope I have answered your questions. If you have further questions, please send them to my inbox and I will attempt to answer them for you.