Humiliation kink

Bishop • Nov 7, 2025

I would agree that it’s cathartic, for both. It’s not just a release of suppressed/repressed emotions, or pressure, it’s also providing a safe place where the parties can share and explore the deeper things, the more “taboo” aspects of bdsm. It can be emotionally traumatizing if not approached in a healthy way, hence why I refer to it as more “taboo.”

Steellover​(sub male) • Nov 7, 2025

Good post, I agree that it is all of these things.

Heart of Persephone​(sub female)​{owned} • Nov 9, 2025

I sit on the fence with this. Being called -dirty whore, worthless, stupid bitch and so on. I thought I enjoyed it, I was/ am wanting to be my Doms lil slave slut. but sometimes it felt overused and I became numb or i would feel every word cutting into me.

Yet I want to look up at him and feel the strength and protection in those words as he speaks them to me.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Nov 9, 2025

I have asked a few why they liked calling me names like dirty little slut, my little whore, face fucker, dirty little bitch, etc and they told me that they were expressing their love and their desire in the moment. They also wanted me to know they were pleased with what I was doing.

Works for me.

Mr Miles​(dom male) • Nov 11, 2025

With the right partner, humiliation and degradation are vital activities. They are deeply bonding as well. For me it's about reducing a woman to her most primal and sexual core. Stripping away the veneer of being proper and such, removing all social expectations and constraints so she is able to fully indulge in her most primitive and base sexual desires, without fear of judgment. Literally helping her become a bitch in heat that gives no shits for what others might think. It's liberating for many.

tallslenderguy​(kinky male) • Nov 12, 2025

i think on an infinite human sexuality spectrum, there is no one size fits all answer. i wondered about this for a long time.
The sub in me only comes out when i have chemistry with what i think of as an Affectionate Dom, and i think there is always a mind fuck sort of humiliation/degradation element to it.

Force, meanness, bullying turn me off totally, i do not submit to it because that would just be 'role play' for me, and i only want to connect real with real.

For instance, i have experienced a Top Who really wanted and loved the idea of pissing inside of me. He was very turned on by the idea of me not only being willing to take His piss, but actually Him being able to get me to a place where i was craving 'it.' But it wasn't piss. i actually don't like piss, especially the taste. It's His lust, pleasure, and knowledge that He can use a combination of those things to elicit need/desire in me for Him and His release and pleasure.

This is just one example, but generally speaking, becoming someone's toilet is a degrading/humiliating act, and it does make me blush just to write this, and it also turns me on thinking of the whole connection. What i realized (for me) is, i am conditioned to feel humiliated and degraded... that's a 'nurture' thing, and it's very real. At the same time, the desire/need that He is connecting to and controlling is also real. So His desire/need to use and exercise me in that way is also deeply affirming.

Yolosub​(sub male) • Nov 18, 2025

It's as simple as my origin story. I was humiliated by an ex-girlfriend and her best friend; essentially blackmailed into serving them with tasks that started with simple humiliation like kneeling, crawling and barking like a dog, but progressed quickly into stripping, touching and being touched, servicing and being serviced, receiving pain and ultimately earning multiple releases. It was the perfect blend of humiliation and pleasure that imprinted on me in a way that has me addicted for life. I love being humiliated by my play partner, especially with a small audience present. YOLO!

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Nov 22, 2025

For me: It is about the giving of the s type.

What they are willing to be put through to make me happy. Eating from dog dishes to peeing in a litter pan, how deep will they go for me to give up more and more of themselves.

NarahPrimal​(sub female) • Nov 24, 2025

As a masochist I adore it.
It took me a while to wrap my head around it but now I find it a huge turn on to do something that I know pleases him so much