First time owning my female GF … she wants to use her

First time owning my female GF … she wants to use her

Jimg​(sub male) • Dec 10, 2025

Any suggestions on I own her in the bedroom ?

She wants me to what I please with her

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

She will be naked on the bed on all 4 ‘s with a hood on

Step by step would be great .

friendlyfire​(masochist female) • Dec 10, 2025

Step One: follow the instructions - she literally asked *you* to do what *you* please with her and you came here to ask what we would do?

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Dec 10, 2025

Also your a sub why the frack do you have a Femsub? when you looking for a Domme or Dom? that will do you no favours in the long run. Also your caged 346 days? ...and this is your GirlFriend? ....I'm more than a little confuzzled! No wonder you don't know what you want. How is it fair on anyone.

Do what you want, that is WITHIN her range of LIMITS and do it SSC in mind. If you are simply topping her, ask what she wants.

if not....

Figure out what your limits are on that side of the whip and what hers are, play happens in the middle of those limits.

dollMaker​(dom male) • Dec 11, 2025

If the hood does not have breathing holes, or open mouth, nose area, do not use this hood. Hoods with none of that, will allow some air in, but this type if never used before can cause panic attacks, and all the resulting issues that will bring. I am active 15+ years and I use hoods very carefully, it requires a lot of good observational skills, and checking regularly to make sure nothing is going wrong, and being able to breath isn't being impaired. I think hood use, depending on the hood, sits more to the advanced side of play activity, and not a newbie activity. My advice is start simple, no hood, and very simple activity, nothing too advanced.

Being on all fours is a stress position, as it puts stress on the arms, hands and shoulders, with support under the torso, say a footrest/pouf/ottoman, that works ok to reduce the stress, if it's the right height. Lying flat on the back would be safer, and definitely not flat on the tummy, face down.

Frankly though, if you do not know what to do, want us to plan a scene for you, that to me suggests you need to go away and learn basic activity/safety before you do anything to your girl friend. BDSM, even simple stuff can be very dangerous, to the point of causing life changing injury, even death. So my advice would be go with your girl friend to a BDSM 101 event/workshop where the person taking it can introduce you both to ideas, and activities, you get to see, sample, try under guidance, and this will launch you both into exploring and learning more.

BDSM/Kink/Fetish activity isn't something to just launch into, without learning and acquiring the knowledge to do it safely first. Please go educate yourself first.

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Dec 11, 2025

Just in the bedroom?

That isn't ownership, that is topping. Which is fine, but you need to define it for what it is. Ownership just isn't kink. It goes way beyond that.

House Talion​(dom male) • Dec 11, 2025

If you dont nnkw how tonown a partner then you need more instructions than they do. Such training is available, but even just tlaking aboutnit is never cheap

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Dec 11, 2025

OP,

No, not a good idea! BDSM isn't like watching a youtube video and learning how to change the oil in your car.

Please find some BDSM 101 educational classes in your area and attend. If you must do something, make it very, very simple.
People really do get hurt attempting to do kinky activity without experience.

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Dec 11, 2025

Interesting... she wants you to own her and you don't know how. All you know know is she wants you to use her for your pleasure. So, literally do what you please with her without violating her limits. Spank her, titty torture her, bite, pinch, slap, mark her, and fuck her senseless IF that's what pleases you, but if you're asking, and you're a sub, how would it?
Probably you should go to those BDSM classes and get a handle on what this is and what you want, both of you.