guidance on how to top and do punishments/funishments

guidance on how to top and do punishments/funishments

Mina argent​(kinky female) • Jan 15, 2026

Hi everyone! I’m mina and just wanted to ask if someone could tell me or guide me on how to top and be dominant towards my partner. i’ve been in HEAVY VANILLA relationships before this one and they say i do just fine with what i do already but they do so much for me and do fantastic work for me when they are dominant and stuff and i wanna be that way for them too. please any advice or rules that i could set or anything would be so amazingly appreciated and helpful. Mina out.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 22, 2026

Go to parties and events.
Watch what others do, feel the tools in your hand, test them against your arm.
Maybe you can find a House servant to test your progress with. Maybe you'll find a mentor that'll show you what to do and what not to do.

Re: guidance on how to top and do punishments/funishments

dollMaker​(dom male) • Jan 22, 2026

Get yourself the New Topping Book, Screw the Roses Send me the Thorns, and the Loving Dominant.

On you tube watch Morgan Thornes educational videos ( https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwx8uy7nxohWLwnaPocLsyg ), and then attend beginners workshops relating to the type of play, impact instruments you would like to use. I would start simple, hand spanking, large paddles, other toys require more skill to use safely. Go slow, practice and learn to be competent, and safe before you use anything on any person.

BDSM can be very dangerous, and it's a lot easier to mess up and hurt someone, even with simple stuff, at best bruising that takes longer to heal, at worst, damage that can be life changing, even fatal.

Good luck on your journey.