What is our Priorities?

What is our Priorities?

oMichaelne​(dom male) • Jan 25, 2026

I’ve been a Dominant in this lifestyle for 12 years now. Since the beginning I’ve always prioritized compatibility. Compatibility in and out the bedroom. How she makes me feel about myself. Also, how interested and invested she is into me and our relationship. I never prioritized looks, age, experience level, location, weight, height, their job, etc in order to determine if this is the right submissive for me. Our compatibility for eachother in this lifestyle as always been my priority.

I know people seeking Dominants and Submissives but rejecting the interaction because of something superficial. That tells me the lifestyle comes second to your demand of him being 6 feet, or your demand that she weighs less than you. The power dynamic is being treated like an accessory to dating preferences rather than a relational framework. For me, the foundation of this lifestyle is mutual alignment, trust, and intention, not aesthetics or checklists.

This isn’t a judgment on how others approach the lifestyle. Different people prioritize different things, and that’s valid. My priorities simply lean toward compatibility, connection, and mutual investment rather than surface-level traits.

Steellover​(sub male) • Jan 25, 2026

I agree with everything you say here; some people may be looking for short-term "play partners" and that may be fine for the short term, but a lot of people have moved past that. Many people, including me, want something more lasting, a deeper and less superficial connection.

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Jan 28, 2026

Very true , Adopting a healthier lifestyle can greatly benefit one's physical and mental well-being. This entails letting go of hatred, seeking help when needed, and cultivating a sense of inner peace. It's essential to recognize that true beauty is rooted in one's character and behavior, rather than external appearance. By taking responsibility for their life and choices, individuals can break free from patterns of negativity and create a more purposeful existence. It's vital to prioritize self-improvement and personal growth, acknowledging areas for development and working towards positive change. When pursuing romantic relationships, it's crucial to establish a genuine connection based on mutual respect, trust, and communication. Both partners should strive to support each other's growth and well-being, working together as a team. By doing so, they can build a strong and fulfilling relationship that brings happiness and joy to both parties.