The Number one Sir(dom male)
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1 week ago •
Feb 9, 2026
Is this a kink or just D/s in general?
One thing I've realized about myself in terms of D/s relationships is I love it when my sub shares her thoughts and feelings about our dynamic, relationship, play. I like it for several reasons, one is the level of trust in allowing me to know her intimate thoughts, it makes me feel close to her.
Another is how I can use the feedback to enhance the dynamic, increase control or maybe play... Is this considered a kink or is it more a normal side of being Dominant? Curious to get others takes on it |
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Bunnie
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1 week ago •
Feb 9, 2026
From my own personal experiences it seems pretty common. Dominants are a curious bunch!
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The Number one Sir(dom male)
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1 week ago •
Feb 9, 2026
► Bunnie wrote: From my own personal experiences it seems pretty common. Dominants are a curious bunch!
We are a curious bunch  I guess we love knowing what makes our subs tick and how to make them tick more and more
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Steellover(sub male)
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6 days ago •
Feb 9, 2026
Re: Is this a kink or just D/s in general? ► The Number one Sir wrote: One thing I've realized about myself in terms of D/s relationships is I love it when my sub shares her thoughts and feelings about our dynamic, relationship, play. I like it for several reasons, one is the level of trust in allowing me to know her intimate thoughts, it makes me feel close to her.
Another is how I can use the feedback to enhance the dynamic, increase control or maybe play... Is this considered a kink or is it more a normal side of being Dominant? Curious to get others takes on it It is more a normal side of being dominant, but beyond that, it is, I think, a crucial communication between partners that is essential for ANY type of relationship. |
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Literate Lycan(dom male)
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6 days ago •
Feb 9, 2026
I agree with Steellover above. That's a normal side of any healthy relationship. And it should go both ways.
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JaredMayer(dom male)
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6 days ago •
Feb 10, 2026
Here I was thinking that might just be an autistic thing. The kinkiest relationship I ever had ultimately fell apart because I wanted to take their mind apart to see how it worked and really understand them, but they were very closed off emotionally and things fell apart. It's definitely something I need in a relationship though.
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| Grizzledoldman(dom male) |
6 days ago •
Feb 10, 2026
I don't know how, as a Dom, someone can NOT enjoy those conversations. Those conversations are the true intimacy, the pieces of a relationship that make all the other stuff possible. The depth is built from physical, emotional, and mental connections.
Yes there can be play sessions where the emotional is glossed over or where the mental connection doesn't truly exist. I get that. But different strokes for different folks....I can't engage without all three pieces |
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The Number one Sir(dom male)
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3 hours ago •
Feb 16, 2026
► JaredMayer wrote: Here I was thinking that might just be an autistic thing. The kinkiest relationship I ever had ultimately fell apart because I wanted to take their mind apart to see how it worked and really understand them, but they were very closed off emotionally and things fell apart. It's definitely something I need in a relationship though.
I don't think it's an autistic thing at all. It might be *different* for folks on the spectrum (which I don't think I am at all) but it's a bit different for everyone. I see the mind and inner thoughts as the most intimate place in my sub, letting me in to do things with it and control it is the ultimate in submission for me. Once I've begin to capture her mind the rest falls into place. |
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