Punishments

@Deliberate Dom

Glad you wrote that because I agree completely with what the wolf man up there wrote. And it wasn't a "tear down" of anything, just his thoughts on how dynamics that work... work.


Of course, subs choose who will be the dominant but dominants also choose who will be the sub in their dynamic. But there are always exceptions. Don't forget the TPE where the submissive neither has nor wants any "power" outside of necessary communication, boundaries, limits.

So, I am glad that cooler heads have prevailed. (Thanks@ SirsBabyDoll)

.....And as for the original topic, lest I wander too far into the weeds, the "punishment" aspect of a D/s relationship is for those who are into it, like in a TPE or in the case of brat-taming. But indeed, there are many dynamics without this feature, and the domination/submission is as simple as the D taking the lead on decisions and the S completely content with that arrangement.

Also, the perception that it's always whips and chains for the subs could very well come from the very words that "BDSM" spell out.

It's tough to shake a stereotypical perception when "we" use those letters to describe this life choice.

Heeeey! I take exception to being included in the "or in the case of brat-taming"! Not all Brat dynamics want, need, or desire "punishments".

In fact, in my 6 year dynamic, I was only spanked as a punishment once. That was when we discovered that spanking as a punishment (for ME) was a hard limit.

I have learned that the best way to beat a Brat...is to best them at their our game. We enjoy that shit like a kid in a candy shop!

That was a general statement.


II do not include specific individuals or their particular dynamics in what I post unless expressly indicated (and I know the person)

So just relax .