Training? Idk?

I don’t think it’s what I looking for, I think I’m looking for just a friendship where I can ask a million questions about what doms generally expect/ how to act and react to things appropriately I realize everyone has they’re own expectations that need to be discussed. I guess I’m looking for like a guide? Wing man? Idk lol

"Training" is probably the most misused term within the lifestyle.

Not all those on the inside of the collar need it. And, there are more variations of training than anyone cares to admit, nor does everyone need it in any shape or form. Newbie and morons outside the collar use the term without care because it makes them sound "Domly". Those that do require training of some sort could and should spend time figuring out what kind and length of training.

In reality, what or if or "Am I doing this right" all boils down to exactly "Why are you engaging in the lifestyle". Are you here to just be kinky? Are you looking for someone to serve? Are you looking to be beaten? Learning your "Why" and understanding your "Why" are two different things and it takes work to do both. And the only one who can do that is you.

Great Forum topic and excellent response,

I would surmise that for you, asking a million questions is literally your method of training and learning and developing your sense of how to react. That makes sense.

Very much as posted above, "training" is one of the most misused and misunderstood terms. In regards to BDSM and relationships, some fantasize about including aspects such as "training" to solidify discipline (or as part of their kink). Not everyone needs it because most dynamic relationships don't require that level of training. But it makes "us" feel special and different. In the end, it's about developing discipline in a relationship (where discipline can be defined as "the practice of training oneself or others to follow a code of conduct, fostering self-control, character, and efficiency to achieve long-term goals over immediate desires").

With whatever terms you consider it - training, learning, developing - both sides need to engage. By that I mean, pretty much as you intimate, you meet someone and get to know each other, learning each other, and then developing into your own rhythm and dynamic.

It's pretty much like finding the right dance partner. Depends entirely on your choice in music and style of dance and even clothes you desire to wear - and when you find that partner you get to figure out how to lead and follow until you're both in step to the same beats of the music. While you are figuring it out, you practice.

Smart idea of having a wing man! Someone you can bounce thoughts and ideas of who has your back, be it a mentor, guide or just friend.