So Who Pays: First Meets

I never ask my partner to take the bill, but he's a gentleman and gets the tab; however, I have done it at times. The first meeting is to see if there's a connection, and the second meeting is more like a date to see if the connection is still there but they rather pay if the second meeting just saying but no one wants to waste there time nothing should be forced. Create a foundation for something special by choosing a relaxed setting, like a charming coffee shop or picturesque park, where you can genuinely connect without pressure. You can keep things casual by splitting the bill or bringing a picnic to enjoy together. Being open about expectations upfront allows for a natural flow, and if conversation sparks, that's wonderful. If not, parting ways amicably is perfectly fine. Perhaps meeting at a quaint bookstore or library, with coffee in hand, could be the perfect backdrop for a lovely connection. Prioritizing connection over elaborate plans sets the stage for something meaningful.

For me I would expect to pay for myself, I think when first meeting you are both equals.

Having done this before, he generally pays (male Dom, female sub dynamic). That being said I try to pick a place where I could afford to pay for myself (I'm a broke bitch) and usually offer. But generally he insists.

Chivalry is not dead. A dominant should pay for his/her submissive on the first meet.