What do you.....?

The thing I love the most about submission is that it makes me feel safe. There are times when I'm in deep sub space and even in everyday life when I feel uncertain, unable, or I just don't want to deal with handling the situation in which I find myself. In those situations, yes, the thing I appreciate most is the safety in knowing that my dominant will take control, tell me what to do, and direct me where he wants me to go. I am extremely grateful when my dominant does all of this. It makes me feel very safe in ways vanilla relationships can't equal.

I think it's incredibly disingenuous and mean-spirited of you to sit in judgment of another person's answer, Diana. You can answer for yourself. You are not entitled to answer on anyone else's behalf or dictate whether his answer is correct or whether he's relating correctly to his own dominance. This community is better than that and the members deserve to be treated better.

I totally agree with what you're saying. I usually use a nerdier (and worse) analogy: my brain is like Chrome with 1,500 tabs open. He manages to keep only the 20 most important ones open. I suffer less and have more peace of mind. And about safety... you nailed it.

Personally, yes… I can verify that there are submissives that compliment Dominants like @Jared in their enjoyment of being of service in specific ways, because I am one. Also, I think he explained himself perfectly. It’s difficult to explain some things that can be touchy for others… for eg. that you enjoy suffering in a consensual way- as either the giver or receiver, as it’s not something readily understood by many. I spent a lot of years trying to find ways to make it less triggery to share so that I could hope for understanding and less judgement, but I came to realise it doesn’t actually matter. It’s like looking at a menu at a restaurant - certain wording will resonate, some will simply make no sense at all… and that’s perfectly ok… we don’t need to eat everything on the menu, nor does it make any dishes less palatable just because they’re not to our tastes.

I love being a covering, a safe harbor, an anchor. Most of my life has been wading into battle, overpowering, and subduing... winning and losing. I had to learn to anchor my own chaos, so being an anchor for someone else, that's the still energy I love to feel.

Those who are female doms have an effect on me that makes my heart race a bit and my hands shake sometimes. I've never been that way with another woman prior to taking an interest in the BDSM lifestyle as a sub.

“Why do you love being a submissive, and what’s the best part for you?”

I’ve been sitting with this question since the ending of my last relationship. And in all honesty, what once seemed like such an easy answer, became elusive and uncertain. To the point of even being balky at the idea of submission. It’s no longer so straightforward anymore. However a recent incident did make me laugh and realise there’s still remnants there hidden beneath the surface. On a flight home the flight staff came through with treats after our main meal. I perked up in my seat at the sight of some yummy chocolate, and as the flight attendant approached I gave him my biggest grin. He picked up the chocolate and said “have you been a good girl?” I burst out laughing and with a cheeky grin replied, “Always”. He gave me a wink and said, “not much fun in that now is there.” I laughed as his face shifted and horrified he said, “oops I probably shouldn’t have said that!”
It was a fun, humorous interaction that lit up a small part of me I’d long set aside. It’s not about reading too much into the interaction… the element that made me smile was my response to the “good girl.” I do love to be a good girl, despite how much I may try to think otherwise.

Being submissive is something I've come to terms with and it's not so much that I "love" it or dislike it. Because there is good and bad that comes with it. But I'll stick with the good, since that's kind of the point: I like making my partner smile. I like making her happy. I like being told what to do, so there is no guesswork. I like being vulnerable, emotionally and physically, and I like the feeling of being needed and loved. I love the power and energy of women, and basking in that power. This is a start, but there is so much more.