What's one thing you learned only later to realize it isn't right?

Let's go way back to when we first saw or heard the term B.D.S.M. It doesn't matter if you saw it in a book, magazine, movie, porn, or on the internet.

What is one thing you had been told, taught, learned, or assumed about B.D.S.M/Kink that just isn't true?

We've all grown and have had good, bad, and ugly experiences. But let's see what we've learned and can still learn from each other.

What's one thing you learned only later to realize it isn't right?

We have heard speakers at events talk about this for years. As you have indicated, magazines, books, porn, movies, the internet, etc. all can give misleading information.

For us, since we have been in the kink world for decades and seen so much, probably thinking that we had do what we saw others do would be at the top of the list. We had to learn that this is OUR lifestyle and not anyone else should tell us what we should or should not do. As long as something is done with mutual consent, it usually is fine to do.