What type of aftercare do you want/need?

I've realized I may need to step up my aftercare game. So I'd like to hear from the submissives here.

Do you like to cuddle and fall asleep, talk, eat or drink, be praised, be left alone, take a shower, watch a movie, or brush your hair? Walk me through a step by step of the aftercare you need or would like after some hard play and after some light play.

For those who are new and inexperienced, what does your dream aftercare look like?

You discuss this with the people you want/will play with BEFORE, you play. This is basic stuff, the conversation should happen along with limits, boundaries activities discussion before anything occurs. Only what those people need, matters.

And yet no where did you properly answer his question or say anything remotely helpful.

For myself I enjoy receiving lots of praise, head pats, being given water, cuddling up to watch my favorite shows, and generally feeling loved and appreciated. Oh and a shower together is also a huge plus.

Oh fuck off. You need to get over yourself, kid. You're always acting like a kink keyboard warrior on here. I blocked you years ago, and you're still upset by it. God forbid I ask a simple, fun question in the discussion forums without you getting offended and upset by it.

This is a good post. I genuinely miss the days when I could come to the forums to learn about the lifestyle.

Much of what you've listed is true. In the past may of the ladies I've been with have enjoyed how I use my hands. So I maintain that contact as aftercare with massages across their body, or play with their hair. I maintain light kisses where they enjoy them most often on the forehead. And assuming the girl is able I maintain conversation. I say what I enjoy about the scene and I ask them what they did and did not enjoy.

I think having the emergency chocolate on hand for deep drops is important. I'd like to do something more...involved like hot chocolate but I question the prep distraction away from the girl. Also showers together. I establish a rule where neither of can wash ourselves, we wash each other which manifests as very caring and affectionat. I wash the girls body, hair, more kisses of course. And after I dry her off and brush out her hair.

It's tough because there isn't a recipe for things. While I don't agree with Dollmakers sour tone, his point is valid that each partner is very different. To go a step further, each scene is different do to what was done, how intense it was, and the state of mind for the girl going in.

Hopefully this is helpful to someone.