Are Most Men Doms Only Looking for Women?

Hi everyone,

I was curious about this app, so I made an account seeing if there were men doms I could form a connection with. However, most male doms appear to be looking for women submissives. I also noticed some male doms don't necessarily make this explicitly clear in their profiles. I greatly appreciate the guys who do that because it saves me time. But now I'm wondering if this app is worth it for gay male subs....

I wouldn't mind a dom of any gender honestly, but I don't know what a woman (cis or trans) and a gay guy sub dynamic would look like. I appreciate any information. Have a good day.

I clearly state that I'm looking for women Doms in my profile and I still get men messaging me :/ so I'm not sure but it seems like it!

Unfortunately that falls under the "grin and bear it" category because there are and always will be those who see a pic, start drooling, open a profile, and skip straight to the bottom where the "send message" button is, disregarding silly details like what the profile-owner is looking for or not looking for, or in my case, simply "Not Looking" ----- (at all).

My inbox traffic has dropped to maybe one or two guys every other month now, so it's all good on my end, anyway.

It could be that I put the "Not Looking" in bold and large enough typeface or I've aged out of the market which is fine by me. In my mind I "aged out" 7 years ago.

Fortunately, this is not a dating site per se, so I 'm still here.

Good evening and welcome to the Cage.

The short answer to your question is yes, most male Dominants are most likely only looking for female submissives. It's the law of numbers. And that will probably be the case no matter where you go unless you find a site specifically catering to your choices (knowing the internet there is probably a place like that but I don't know where it might be found). I do find most of the people here to be fairly decent.

There are very decent gentlemen here who may cater to your desires but as you've indicated, they are not be very public in their advertising. I wish you the best of luck in your search.

Thank you everyone for your candid responses. I appreciated everyone's replies.

Hopefully something will work out, but I'll just have to be thorough. While also dealing with any unwanted dms. I bet it's even worse for submissive women who are only looking for other dom women. I have no doubt there are tons of dms from men dominants who promise they can "convert" a woman who is clearly not interested.

Wishing everyone the best and hopefully as few unwanted dms as possible.

Best,
B

I wonder if it may be worth placing a seeking ad? That might be a way of finding people to connect with.

Hi Bunnie,

Good point. I did and have my status set to seeking with what I'm looking for. It looks like I have to upgrade to premium to add 'About Me' details on my profile?

I've gotten a couple inquiries but one was from a dom looking for a sub woman, which I am not. And one from a dom who gets pleasure from making subs cry. I'm kinky but not that kinky lol😅. I appreciate your input though.

Best,
B