Who Pays: Sex Toys

My Owner buys my equipment, gear, and machines I am placed on. I made the mistake when I first started out with Him and purchased from local highway stores and that was the worst experience. In regards to dildos/vibrators, the selection was were for tiny holes and their fetish clothing was cliche. After my Owner and I had a good chuckle about the purchases, He now orders at His whim.

I been buying the toys for the girl I dated, even got her own collar and leash for her.

I mainly buy them because she can't anyways, but I like having her try new things.

Huge difference between Dominant and Sadist.
Just because Topeka Dom uses “Dom” doesn’t mean he is one.
Dominant & Submissive can each have boundaries and “hard no (s)”. Dominant/Submissive complement each other. They both give/take. There is a constant power exchange.
If the Submissive is powerless, then that is rape.
Not okay.
A submissive can make demands on a Dominant. Like progressive trust. An AIDS test. Condoms. One on One Only (No Parties). No Face in Videos.
We establish resumes for compatibilities. Sexual Trust.
A Dominant should never ever never give a Submissive Cash, Credit, etc…. This is about Communication NOT Prostitution.
If a Submissive demands that you buy toys, stfu and buy toys or walk away. Feed The Submissive fantasy or you don’t deserve the fantasy that is reciprocated.
We EARN everything but safety. Safety is Always given .

I think Topeka has been around long enough to be credible.

Your post is confusing.

Unless in a formal dynamic I feel a submissive should buy her own toys.

It’s pretty simple for me, If I want something, I might think on it, discuss it and/or buy it, depending on circumstances. I go in with a demeanour of self-sufficiency and an openness of giving and receiving, providing it’s not conditional, but rather, an act of wanting to give.

In my current dynamic, depending on what it is, and also if it brings him pleasure and joy, he’ll want to buy it for me. Or for a special occasion, he might say choose 3 toys or some specific accessory/clothing. We have those conversations and understand each other easily.

I have no problem in just buying something that I want or want to give him. Also, I very much enjoy when he buys me things because his choices are communication of how he knows me so well. It’s part of his craft and a source of meaningful connection.

It’s balanced and easy to discuss. We both have financial independence and share attitudes around what our relationship is (and isn’t) and the purchases made in and out of that sphere.

No need for demand from either side of the slash because we communicate openly and easily. It is a relationship foremost; communicating with respect and care is essential