Why subs with trauma feel scared trusting

“I feel like on here it’s good to have conversation, but it gets to a point where you don’t know if the persons gonna be nice or not or if they have only sexual intentions.”

I feel this so hard. I love talking to anyone and everyone, and the second people learn that I am collared they lose interest. I just need people in the community to talk to, because my Dom and I live in a very small town, and no one here knows that we are part of the kink/BDSM community. I have sexual trauma, but part of this lifestyle has helped me attach securely to my Dom of 15 years (husband of 22 years), and to really look at myself honestly and to be able to ask for what I want, especially as a submissive. Never ever apologize for standing up for yourself. It is okay to have wants and needs and to be able to express them freely and without fear. If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me.