Abuse or not?

Update, it was a huge misunderstanding, we had a long conversation. All is ok now.

OK

Good luck as you move forward..

I was wondering if it was a blackmail situation. I’m so sorry. Whilst I can’t offer any advice from experience, hopefully now others can put forward suggestions as to how to maybe safeguard yourself from at least this point forward. Personally I would cut all contact. I know that’s a terrifying thought because it then just becomes an unknown… but your fear is feeding his sense of power over you and while you keep feeding that directly it makes it difficult to change anything.
I guess from there it depends on what’s at risk. If it’s a relationship, maybe you’ll need to sit down and have a difficult conversation with your partner and bring it to light so that they hear it from you first. Again, I’m not speaking from experience so these are just some thoughts that come to mind.
Hopefully something here helps, or someone else has some suggestions that can help.

Oh ok! Glad to hear it

Now that we know was only online , be cautious. No one owns you until you earn their respect it’s not given it’s earned! Many pretend Doms act like this have zero safety report and block. He treated you this way at the beginning, and they can try to make it better, but it’s a sign of a person with narcissistic disorder . They need to heal for them self. Better without them and be happy for yourself!