skyrich(dom male){rottenbrat} |
4 years ago •
Mar 28, 2020
Dominance and Submission, (with apologies to Blue Oyster Cul
4 years ago •
Mar 28, 2020
skyrich(dom male){rottenbrat} • Mar 28, 2020
Some people claim to be dominant, other claim submissive. But is it really that simple? What does it mean to be dominant or submissive? Should a dominant dominate everyone? Should a submissive submit to everyone? Dear God, people, please tell me you mentally answered "no"!
Consider a number-line. We all learned about these in primary school. You have positive numbers going to the right off to infinity and negative numbers going off to the left to negative infinity. Let's arbitrarily call the negative numbers "submissive", and the positive numbers "dominant". I'm not saying that submissiveness is a negative trait, I'm demonstrating that submission and dominance are equal and opposing traits. Each person can then place themselves somewhere on the number-line, and we can do some match-making. A strong dominant, (say, +10), may not make a good match with a mild submissive, (say, -1). He would overwhelm her and possibly destroy her. Likewise a weak dominant, (+1) and a confident, strong sub, (-10) are a poor match. Likely she'd end up dominating him and resenting him for it. But even this is not sufficient, I think. Life is not static, it is a complex, dynamic, adaptive system. It is complex: there are many parts. It is dynamic: these parts are always changing. It is adaptive: A change in part A induces change in parts B, C, D, and E, which then induce changes in other parts, and so on, quite often inducing a change back in A. it is a system: it works together. We call it "life", because, well, "volkswagon" was taken already, and it would've been too confusing. I'm a dominant -- does that mean I dominate every situation and every person I come across? Hell no! For example, if I'm stopped by a cop, it's "yes, Sir/M'am" and "no, Sir/M'am", even if he or she is 20 years younger than me. I don't try to dominate this situation , because I know that doing so would have unfortunate, and uncomfortable consequences for me, such as getting locked up in a small cage with a much larger man, named "Bubba", who has entirely flexible sexual proclivities. I do not like submitting to the cop, but I understand the necessity of it. So, you see, my dominance is dynamic it adapts to the situation at hand. It would be inconceivably stupid of me not to recognize this. And I may be crazy, but I'm not stupid. So it is with the submissive as well. There are often times when she must dominate a situation or even a person, again she may not like it, but it may be necessary. Credit where it's due: This post also inspired by a comment from Jolene, to wit: Jolene wrote: If I'm being *this* submissive, he should be *that* dominant...
Honestly, Jolene, I'm not stalking you. Your responses to my material have been insightful, intelligent and a delightful source of inspiration. Good girl! |
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