Lovingly Strict(dom female)
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1 day ago •
Feb 2, 2026
If you could change one thing about the lifestyle, what would it be?
If you could change one thing about the lifestyle, what would it be?
Don't think too much into it, or do. I don't really care but you must be fully honest when answering. |
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Steellover(sub male)
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1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
Well, I can't change the ratio of female dominants to male submissives, and I suppose it would be selfish to think that way.
I can't change my local dating scene; it's a fairly conservative town and those of us here who are into sex at all, mostly lean strictly vanilla. A lot of people, due to their strict religious upbringing, think even recreational vanilla sex is taboo, and live their lives ridden with guilt and repression. Kink of any kind, of course, is beyond imagining to them. I can't change that. I would change myself, though, to drive those kinky desires from my brain, re-wire myself to be strictly vanilla. That's hard to do though. I've tried... Or, I would change it so that there would be some way, some subtle code, or method, by which like-minded kinky people could identify each other, so that rare connection we all crave could happen more easily. I mean, I can't just go walking around downtown wearing a big white t-shirt that says "This Naughty Boy Needs Spanking!" can I. |
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MissBonnie(dom female){oz}
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1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
Steellover wrote: Well, I can't change the ratio of female dominants to male submissives, and I suppose it would be selfish to think that way.
I can't change my local dating scene; it's a fairly conservative town and those of us here who are into sex at all, mostly lean strictly vanilla. A lot of people, due to their strict religious upbringing, think even recreational vanilla sex is taboo, and live their lives ridden with guilt and repression. Kink of any kind, of course, is beyond imagining to them. I can't change that. I would change myself, though, to drive those kinky desires from my brain, re-wire myself to be strictly vanilla. That's hard to do though. I've tried... Or, I would change it so that there would be some way, some subtle code, or method, by which like-minded kinky people could identify each other, so that rare connection we all crave could happen more easily. I mean, I can't just go walking around downtown wearing a big white t-shirt that says "This Naughty Boy Needs Spanking!" can I. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^what he said about Femdoms^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ There arent enough go around. I'd also like inside that same wish: that ALL THOSE self labeling themselves as Femdoms had legitimate and open. honest intentions. Steellover could you wear a trisk or small flogger on your key chain? They are subtle but those in the know, know! |
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dollMaker(dom male)
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1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
That no human being could ever violate another's consent, or lie, a built-in, sort of kill switch that stops/prevents it.
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| Miss Anima(dom female) |
1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
MissBonnie wrote: Steellover wrote: Well, I can't change the ratio of female dominants to male submissives, and I suppose it would be selfish to think that way.
I can't change my local dating scene; it's a fairly conservative town and those of us here who are into sex at all, mostly lean strictly vanilla. A lot of people, due to their strict religious upbringing, think even recreational vanilla sex is taboo, and live their lives ridden with guilt and repression. Kink of any kind, of course, is beyond imagining to them. I can't change that. I would change myself, though, to drive those kinky desires from my brain, re-wire myself to be strictly vanilla. That's hard to do though. I've tried... Or, I would change it so that there would be some way, some subtle code, or method, by which like-minded kinky people could identify each other, so that rare connection we all crave could happen more easily. I mean, I can't just go walking around downtown wearing a big white t-shirt that says "This Naughty Boy Needs Spanking!" can I. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^what he said about Femdoms^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ There arent enough go around. I'd also like inside that same wish: that ALL THOSE self labeling themselves as Femdoms had legitimate and open. honest intentions. Steellover could you wear a trisk or small flogger on your key chain? They are subtle but those in the know, know! Did you mean Findoms? |
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| Miss Anima(dom female) |
1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
I would change the lifestyle back to when you had to educate yourself, far too many people leech engery off others.
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MissBonnie(dom female){oz}
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1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
Miss Anima wrote: MissBonnie wrote: Steellover wrote: Well, I can't change the ratio of female dominants to male submissives, and I suppose it would be selfish to think that way.
I can't change my local dating scene; it's a fairly conservative town and those of us here who are into sex at all, mostly lean strictly vanilla. A lot of people, due to their strict religious upbringing, think even recreational vanilla sex is taboo, and live their lives ridden with guilt and repression. Kink of any kind, of course, is beyond imagining to them. I can't change that. I would change myself, though, to drive those kinky desires from my brain, re-wire myself to be strictly vanilla. That's hard to do though. I've tried... Or, I would change it so that there would be some way, some subtle code, or method, by which like-minded kinky people could identify each other, so that rare connection we all crave could happen more easily. I mean, I can't just go walking around downtown wearing a big white t-shirt that says "This Naughty Boy Needs Spanking!" can I. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^what he said about Femdoms^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ There arent enough go around. I'd also like inside that same wish: that ALL THOSE self labeling themselves as Femdoms had legitimate and open. honest intentions. Steellover could you wear a trisk or small flogger on your key chain? They are subtle but those in the know, know! Did you mean Findoms? In a way yes but I mean the ones that label themselves as Femdoms and are hidden and veiled Findoms/ProDom or sugar or cam/sex worker. If the label matches the contents GREAT. We do need Findoms too, we just don't need the underhanded ones with hidden intents. |
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TopekaDom(dom male){Chaos }
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1 day ago •
Feb 3, 2026
I would wish for more free popcorn in the dungeons.
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Steellover(sub male)
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23 hours ago •
Feb 3, 2026
I've documented my adventures, both the good and the bad, with professional dommes/financial dommes in the past, so I won't reiterate except to say that in the short term, it may be fulfilling, but in the long term, it is not.
And I'm past seeking just short term satisfaction. I want something long-term and enduring. I guess, to add something constructive, as a submissive man, there was a steep learning curve for me. I think if more guys really did their homework before just jumping into things at their first experience of sub-frenzy (and I grudgingly admit to being one of those) then a lot of the miscommunication from, and stigma towards submissive men on sites like this wouldn't be as bad. Also, people would also be more in touch with what they want, and what they are seeking in a partner. |
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House Talion(dom male)
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10 hours ago •
Feb 4, 2026
The worldwide lifestyle council.
It doesn't exist, that needs to be changed. There's a council for different parts of it, but jot kne to govern over it as a whole. One to ensure organizations are actually teaching the truth, to question the red flags that cry wolf, and black mark any that never should've been here simply based on their personality and the way they handle themselves |
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