Is Anal Play Taboo For Young, Straight Subs?

WallyBe​(sub male) • Feb 11, 2019

Straight male sub here, 26 y/o. I never really thought about anal play even being an 'option' for straight men until I started getting interested in kink about 4 or so years ago. Mind you, my interest in dating came rather late, so I wasn't getting much exposure tot anything 'out of the ordinary'. Then I started dating a rather bossy girl who didn't want penetrative sex, for religious reasons... And to my own amazement and hers, I discovered that I was perfectly fine with that. It didn't last long, but she indirectly left me with a strong interest in chastity play. And when you browse chastity porn, pegging videos are just 2 clicks away...

At first I thought it was extremely weird, and yes "gay", but I eventually got really interested in the power dynamics especially, and I started to understand the appeal. For me, the combination of chastity and anal play especially is a powerful act of submission that I would love to be able to practice, but only with the right woman. It is definitely taboo in any other context, but I would have no problem sharing it with a dominant woman that I like, especially if I know that she is into it herself. I do not think of it as being "gay" anymore.

I'm actually surprised that this is your experience, seeing that those young subs most likely know that you are interested in it... If it was me, I would be more than willing to drop the day-to-day facade and come clear with you. Of course, everyone has their own kink, and submission has a different meaning for everyone. I just wouldn't expect it to be as age-specific as you have experienced.

MasterNeil77722​(dom male) • Feb 12, 2019

If it isn’t your sub’s hard limit, then no. I don’t think it’s an age thing. I think it’s about communication. Explain how you would teach, train and care for your sub in this new adventure. If she/he trusts you, she/he should be willing to learn new a new trick to please you. Go slow is the key.

JDBalance​(sub male) • Feb 17, 2019

I'm 22 and straight and I LOVE anal play. There's something about having every area of my body dominated. Everyone's got their thing.

Livetoplease​(sub male){Available} • Feb 17, 2019

I was taught modesty as a young man and that anal play was bad. So about 50 years old, a female friend introduced me to pegging and I found that I really very much enjoyed it! Kind of messes with the mind for a bit that stuff you were taught was wrong, feels really very good!

Seph​(sub male) • Feb 18, 2019

I believe it has to do with manhood and the younger the person is the more of a man he thinks he is therefore harder to do such things, not taboo, just a scarecrow.

SluttyVixenforDaddy{none} • Feb 28, 2019

It is not an age limitation I don't think. More of a how you were raised and personal mindset type thing. Simply communicating and talking openly in depth opens ones mind drastically.

Paramagic89​(switch female) • Feb 28, 2019

Anal is typically taboo for just about everyone, and thats part of the fun. However, theres really no shame in it. Society tells us that typically anything anal for a male is gay. But really it's not. You do you. It's all about what you feel comfortable with doing and what you enjoy.

HeadmasterX • Feb 28, 2019

I have owned several subs, and couple slaves, and almost all between the ages of 18 and 27, and only 2 of them didn't have any experience prior to us started our relationship.
You cant rush anal plays, and if you do it right, the first anal orgasm your sub achieves, she will never ever looks back, and in my experience anal becomes primary compare to anything else.
So the main advice here for bot sides is: Start slow, go slow, and the reward at the end worth every second you invested initially.
Have fun.

Soft Kitten • Mar 2, 2019

For me I guess it may be fear that holds me back from allowing someone to dominate me anally. The pain is unlike any other pain so it makes me anxious and I'm worried about potential damage. So i'm unsure if that would be a hard limit because I guess it would take a lot for me to allow someone to dominate me in such a way

Miki​(masochist female) • Mar 4, 2019

Soft Kitten's profile "does not exist" at this writing which is no big deal, people come and go ---

But a necessary response is in order. The ass is not meant for that. That doesn't mean anal play, pegging or a good old ass fuck which is on my to-do list, actually- all require serious preparation ( a good enema isn't a bad idea either).. Of all the prep, top in importance is time.

It was written on a previous page that finger play and a proper-size butt plug is one way to prepare the ass for what is to come (no pun intended in the case of male tops) -- with the butt plug suggested most in what I have read and spoken of with others, needs to be properly lubricated and left in place for I believe 15 to 30 minutes. One would have to look it up for specifics.-- especially for ass virgins including Yours Truly.

If the butt is stretched properly and over this period of time, it relaxes completely and, well, the potential for lasting injury/damage is reduced. A toy or a real-life schlong will fit in comfortably yet with enough resistance to make humping and getting humped pleasurable for both. (Oh yeah, and not too fast or hard, at least for the novice bottom, even if the moaning and groaning is most of the fun.)

---and not too big a strap-on and, apologies to any latter-day John "Johnny Wadd" Holmeses of the world-- -- not too big a boner for the job, either. If you're well hung, stick to spanking the bishop or the "front door" 'cuz ain't no butthole big enough to make it worthwhile for either.