Compatibility

Devil's damsel​(sub female){HandsomeDe} • Jan 31, 2019

I have to LIKE the person. It’s ok to have different likes and dislikes, that makes for fun and interesting conversation. When I actually like who I’m talking to everything else tends to fall into place.
A sense of humor and ability to take and dish out sarcasm well is important.
Intelligence is huge. And I’m not talking a Rhode’s scholar. He doesn’t have to use big SAT words or have perfect spelling or grammar. He just needs to be able to hold my interest and be able to converse (not conversate, it isn’t a word) intelligently.
He should be well rounded. Someone who’s sole passion and interest is one thing gets boring quickly. Many interests, many likes, dislikes, are important.
Must love music and lots of different genres.
Someone I can sit and veg out with, talking or not, listening to music, drinking a beer, enjoying each other’s company.
Someone I can picture doing things with, going out to eat, seeing a movie, taking a walk, camping, fishing, vacationing.

THEN the D/s dynamics come into play. How well do we mesh in what we want from a relationship? Kinks? Eh I’m pretty open minded so I like the idea of exploring those together...even the crazy ones.

For me it’s all about comfort. I look for someone I can just be myself and comfortable with.

BDSM DOM​(dom male) • Feb 1, 2019

After reading the views of other members, I felt like I should post my own views as well. When it comes to sharing a life with some one, I truly believe there should be chemistry there for starters. In addition to that, I firmly believe in communication. But I also believe in honesty, faithfulness, loyalty, trust are also needed as well. There is many other important things. When it comes to political things, we dont have to share the same views. Personally I dont care about politics. When it comes to religious stuff though, I am open to most types of views and or beliefs. So I would hope they are open as well. If we never talk about religious stuff thats fine. Now when it comes to the color of skin, I am very open to any ethnic background. I do not discriminate. To me, all races are equal.

I however believe that both people should have some things in common. It doesnt have to be on every thing. But to share a few is good. As for age, and looks. Those also come into play. I am not saying they have to look a certain way or be of certain height, weight, etc. But there has to be some sort of physical attraction some where. As for age, That's a tough call. As long as your not into children or other minors. Then age is just a number. I believe both people should be adults.

Loulou​(sub female) • Feb 3, 2019

I would look for someone who will look after me after the play has stopped . Someone I can turn to in a crisis and talk about anything on my mind .
Trust is important and good morals .
Different interests are ok and can be good for conversation etc .
The dynamic is important but discussion are important.
I want to be able to date someone and go for meals etc etc .
Above all someone who makes me feel like I am important and in turn I will make them feel important if they let me .
Last of all mutual respect is probably the most important thing.

SoulKiss84​(switch female) • Feb 4, 2019

I would agree that finding someone you connect with on a normal everyday level is a better foundation to build upon, because things like communication style, expectations about effort, personal and emotional needs, and goals for the future are going to play a role no matter what the dynamic is. Unless the thing you’re looking for is strictly play and boundaries are clearly defined, respect and trust is built on spending time together. That gets a little tough when you can’t find anything to talk about or connect in any way. My personal desire is not to hide anything about me or my everyday life from my Dom. I prefer an all encompassing relationship.

Dellydoodah​(neither female) • Feb 4, 2019

Looks for :

intelligence
Humour
Kindness
Integrity
Generosity of nature
Patience
A shared morality
physical attraction
focus
hard working
An understanding of shared kinks
Loyalty
Honesty
Friendly
Self esteem
drug free
Have self control



Is this why I am single?

Compatibility

Daddy Dave • Feb 5, 2019

I totally agree with Kara and must add trust in any relationship. As well as truthfulness. With those two everything else falls into place.

sugartitsu​(dom female){unavailabl} • Feb 6, 2019

I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic when I say I would want to have a relationship, dom-sub establishment aside. With that in mind, my ideal compatibility is someone who shares my interests and respects my dislikes, mutually supportive & openly confrontational, understanding & trustworthy, and down to be fucking weird and wild. Also it's a huge bonus to be down with making tacos and watching bad movies if one of us is too exhausted to get down.