► lambsone wrote:
THE BIG REVEAL
As of this post I have personally read all of the posts in both genderification posts. Some I had to read twice to fully understand what the meanings were. After reading all those, I discovered that it helped me see the issue in a better light when the larger community discussed it. I think I needed that. I'm very grateful to intenseoldman for the good idea to give a place for the discussion.
I still have my own perspective and so my thinking hasn't changed (no I'm not out to marginalize anyone, and nor do I think one person has more value over another). However I have decided to change my actions/reactions because many more people have weighed in and the consensus seems to be leaning in a particular direction.
I am personally amazed at how much dedicated work, time, thoughtfulness, and energy that everyone put into posting in both threads. I think that is stupendous.
So with a better understanding I am willing now to make some concessions and promise to do the following:
1. Post only gender neutral posts in the forums that all can participate in freely.
2. Hands Off: once I post a thread I will take my hands off of it, so that it can develop into whatever it develops into. I also will not monitor it. It will be up to the community ourselves to play nice.
3. Dominant Voice: I am going to step back from posting so much. I was not aware that my voice was Dominant and lately I think I may have over done it. Hopefully drawing back will encourage others to step forward and generate topics resulting in many more Dominant voices to emerge equally. This includes posts I generate and those I respond to.
Somebody open a bottle of vintage champagne so we can celebrate!!!
Hi Lambsone,
I wanted to post and say that this is really admirable of you. You don't have to change anything you do but it's impressive that you have seen a different perspective or way and want to. I know that you and I have had several difficulties in the past and do not see eye to eye. Although we are different I respect that you are an integral part of the cage. It's nice to move on and start a fresh page. Have a great weekend.