Sweet Minx(sub female){NotLooking}
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2 months ago •
Aug 24, 2024
Sigh.
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Bunnie
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2 months ago •
Aug 24, 2024
lambsone wrote: When I saw the word popcorn in the title, I thought Topeka Dom, the king of popcorn was writing the post. LOL.
Lol! So did I :b |
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Morley(sub female){Max Sterne}
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2 months ago •
Aug 24, 2024
I don't come on often, mostly because life is busy, but also for reasons you say in your post (plus I love me some popcorn and Mojitos, so I had to come in).
But seriously, the Forum here is public, meaning you don't need to be a member to read the Forums and comments. I remember when I first "lurked" the site (hadn't joined), I read almost all the Forums and comments and any blogs that were public too. (Also the once "personal ads", but they were more for entertainment.) Anyway, it was the many topics and the many DIVERSE comments. It was that diversity and all the different opinions that appealed to me and so I became a member. Sure, there were times and people (including myself) that got out the pitchforks and attacked OPs, blogs, comments, Forums etc. however, back then we were a smaller community and the Admins were very hands on and took immediate action when someone was out of line. Now that it's a much bigger community, I think they rely on users to report such things. This doesn't mean to act on it yourself and start "policing" the site, it means report the person/antics etc. and they (Admin) will take what necessary action they deem as fit. As for your original question: Am I wrong on suggesting maybe if you aren't interested in providing your comments on a specifically sexual question, maybe just move on to the next topic? NO, you're not wrong at all! In fact , I agree 100% with your post. This is a BDSM and Kinky site and we ALL know there's a variety of Kink and BDSM which may not be "our" thing, but we are supposed to be judgement free and not shame anyone!!! Are there predators here? Absolutely! And I am being 100% INCLUSIVE to the word "predators". Again, though, they are to be reported to Admin! A few good examples of something I personally experienced here are: Sexual play while a submissive is in "little space". Personally that's not my thing, I had a hard time wrapping my brain around it. There's a wide range of opinions on the topic, but what it boiled down to for me was "they are consenting adults". So not my business and therefore I won't shame or judge. Another was extreme Master/slave dynamics. Again, many different opinions on the topic, and may not be "my thing" but that's okay because they're consenting adults. What I found best for me was to just ignore (as you are saying) and move along. Of course sometimes I would need to talk about subjects that bothered me, so I found it best to do it privately. Remember the saying we should ALL adhere to: Your Kink is Not My Kink and That's Okay!!! |
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Ingénue{VK}
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2 months ago •
Aug 25, 2024
Kinky shenanigans are disgusting. I had to comment and be outraged, while retaining full membership of this site because someone won't stop gifting it to me.
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RoseUndressed(sub female)
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2 months ago •
Aug 25, 2024
Quite frankly I would be offended if someone didn't enjoy themselves over some of the content I choose to share - it would mean I'm losing my touch, and heaven forbid that should ever happen.
And if there are thoughts, stories, or specific images I would prefer people didn't wank over .... well, I would keep them to myself and just move on. |
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| DeepEmbrace(dom female) |
2 months ago •
Aug 26, 2024
Steellover wrote: DeepEmbrace wrote: It's a fucking bdsm/kink/fetish site, for fuck's sake. Literally ANYTHING posted is game for wanking. It does not matter what it is... good, bad, awesome, epic, sad, horrific, mundane, tragic, sexual, non-sexual, profound, stupid, funny, serious... someone, somewhere could/will/might get off on it. Good for them! Wank anyway, everyone! Wank awayyyyyyyy!!!!!!
My sentiments exactly; I sometimes do wish the conversations would get a bit...well, racier. I have noticed though, that the forums seem more dedicated towards discussing relationship issues and general relationship dynamic, as opposed to specific kinks. I always got the idea that the forum administrators sort of preferred it that way; that anything too explicitly sexual or kinky should be discussed either in blogs or in private, and that the forums should, by design, be less graphically erotic. Maybe I'm wrong though. I've seen some posts get removed merely for bringing up certain kinks, while other threads blather on and on and devolve into shouting matches about "genderfication," or how it's not okay to ask "Women- what is your opinion on blah blah blah." I agree. There is strangely little discussion of bdsm, fetishes, and kinks on a site about bdsm, fetish, and kink. It is as boring as it is bizarre. God forbid someone brings up actual kinks and fetishes, especially the ones that aren't the "mainstream" and "acceptable" ones. *gasps* *clutches pearls* There needs to be a filth-ification of the Cage. Or at least a kink-ification and fetish-ification of the Cage. It is too tame and off-topic around here. |
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lambsone
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2 months ago •
Aug 26, 2024
DeepEmbrace wrote:
"There needs to be a filth-ification of the Cage. Or at least a kink-ification and fetish-ification of the Cage. It is too tame and off-topic around here." That would be up to individual posters bringing those topics to the forefront wouldn't you say? If you have a taste for something more exciting, post the topic. Oh sure you might get some backlash, and that's uncomfortable, but if more posted along the lines of those more exciting topics, I'm guessing that the backlash would take a back seat eventually. What say you? |
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Miki(masochist female)
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2 months ago •
Aug 28, 2024
@Lambstone Definitely!!
Although writing material of an erotic nature is certainly welcome here, it is absolutely not required. When one comes across a thread that doesn't tickle their special places, they are more than at liberty to move on to another thread. The site is described as "kink positive" not "kink talk mandatory". Everyone can feel free to be themselves here as opposed to mainstream sites for sure. --------------------------- Now that having been said, I'm just here for the virtual popcorn and to see where this all goes. I'm out of the physical BDSM game. Totally have to polish my rep and affect an air of innocence and purity so I can join the nuns you know. (jk) ...but still Inactive physically. No stories of hot sheets to tell |
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